Getting StarStruck! Oh NO!!!! lol

[trojanman88]

Yo everytime I see someone who has automatic value I find it hard to be myself. Like I can't say anything I dont know why but like I had these cheerleaders in the elevator and like I couldnt say ****. So i got that he is a loser look. Cuz like I either get the hes the loser if I dont talk. For me its like smile and talk or like die fool. You guys get put in the friend zone if you dont kino and I get put in the loser zone if I dont talk. I'm wondering if you guys do that too? I hope that I can get over this **** cuz its really hurting my game and like I can usually get everybody on my side when I do but if I don then im basically a bitc h lol... need some help getting over this ****.

Or rather just period I need some help talking cuz Im one of those guys that if I dont talk then im just a ***** so i have to talk all of the time.

 

[trojanman88]

Do I need to just suck it up?

 

[Nexus Polaris]

Funny you used the word starstruck. I made that same parallel in my head awhile back that helped put things in perspective for me in dealing with women.

I've spent many, many years going to see all kinds of different bands, and as a result, I've met countless rock stars and other celebrities of all levels of fame from the obscure underground types like Enslaved to big name superstars like Aerosmith and Melissa Joan Hart. And I've noticed a recurring theme particularly with the megastars. If you kiss their ass and shower them with compliments, they generally get annoyed and are very short with you. But if you just talk to them like they're everybody else, they'll be a lot more friendly with you in return.

When you think about it, celebrities and attractive women are in the same boat; they both have high status that gets them an absurd amount of praise on a daily basis. This was flattering when they first gained it, but after years of having it, it has become very annoying. They find it refreshing now when somebody just treats them like a person.

After years of interacting with these people, I've become very desensitized to their "star power." In fact, sometimes I'm actually bored talking to them.

That's the key. That scared feeling is generated by the notion that this is a scarce opportunity. Interacting with someone with such high value. But if you do it enough, that feeling really does go away. Eventually, those interactions are all very casual and second nature and rather than kissing their ass for an autograph, you're asking them to put you on the guest list (which many of them are happy to do if you ask the right way).

Equate that to asking an HB10 out. It's the same basic concept.

And it's actually easier with women because hot women are everywhere. They're much more accessible than celebrities who sometimes you have to go through a lot of crap to even get to.



Just force yourself to interact with as many hot women as you can on a regular basis. If you crash and burn and she gives you that, "you're a loser," look, laugh it off and move on to the next one. The more you do this, the easier it will get. And eventually, it will be no big deal.

I'm still working on this with women, but I figure if I conquered celebrities, this should be a piece of cake if I just use the same approach.

 

[LostAndConfused]

Yeah nexus I see what your saying man. A LONG time ago, my father was in some lavish hotel in an elevator, and when the door opened up, Michael Jordan walked in. He told me about their conversation later and said that during the whole ride on the elevator they were both complaining about traffic or somethin of the sort. In fact, their whole conversation was so casual that he forgot to get me his signature and MJ walked out of the elevator after shaking my his hand.

Now he travels alot so he's used to stumbling upon celebrities of the sort, but I'm definitely not, so I get starstruck alot, even by hot girls!

This is what the 3-second rule was made for. If you approach before thinking about how big the person really is socially, you can bypass all that starstruck stuff n be "in" with the girl you want! Don't think too much, just act. If you see a group of cheerleaders at some place, quickly pick out the one you want to hook up with, and just talk.