Alot of people think i'm really weird. Like i am very silly foolish annoying weird. I dont know how to stop being weird. Plus i'm afraid if i stop being weird i wont have anything left, because my whole personality is weird so i'll kind of be a boring non fun non funny guy. HELP
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Getting rid of the weird in me
- Thread starter Rint
- Start date
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
CactusMcDougal
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What specifically makes you 'wierd'? Something about how you speak or how you act? Explain, please.
Who cares what makes you wierd.
Issue is... your wierd.
I'll break it down for you nonetheless...
You revealed, that without it you "won't have anything left"
That right there tells me... its your shield (the ego).
Your personality is your shield in relating w. the world.
You have a shield that people percieve as an uncomftorable reaction.
Thus they title you/it, "wierd."
The main point here is... Your probably not comftorable with yourself.
Well... join the club.
One guy expresses that non-comfort as shyness, another like yourself, expresses that as "very silly foolish annoying wierd." Either way... your not living up to your true potential. This display of wierdness is just your manic energy bubbling off. This same energy is going to become your power, your strength, your light that attracts the babes. You simply just have to accept and integrate it. Become comftorable with uncomftorable feelings. No need to jump into a booger-eating entertainment session. Just process the feelings Ace.
You'll soon realize through doing this, that not only do you have SOMETHING left... you'll have EVERYTHING left. Your range will no longer be limited to the forced sharades you have to put on, due to being uncomftorable. All the energy you assume from integrating the feelings of uncomfort, will continously go towards revealing greater depth of character, power, comfort, command. This naturally will start creating the exact opposite reaction your currently creating. Like moths to a flame... you will begin to attract.
Such is the rewards of the path of the DJ.
I suggest you check out my other thread in the TIPS section.
[thread=113815]Comftorable Feeling Sexy!?[/thread]
It breaks down the exact process of inner-alchemy your looking for.
Peace'
Issue is... your wierd.
I'll break it down for you nonetheless...
You revealed, that without it you "won't have anything left"
That right there tells me... its your shield (the ego).
Your personality is your shield in relating w. the world.
You have a shield that people percieve as an uncomftorable reaction.
Thus they title you/it, "wierd."
The main point here is... Your probably not comftorable with yourself.
Well... join the club.
One guy expresses that non-comfort as shyness, another like yourself, expresses that as "very silly foolish annoying wierd." Either way... your not living up to your true potential. This display of wierdness is just your manic energy bubbling off. This same energy is going to become your power, your strength, your light that attracts the babes. You simply just have to accept and integrate it. Become comftorable with uncomftorable feelings. No need to jump into a booger-eating entertainment session. Just process the feelings Ace.
You'll soon realize through doing this, that not only do you have SOMETHING left... you'll have EVERYTHING left. Your range will no longer be limited to the forced sharades you have to put on, due to being uncomftorable. All the energy you assume from integrating the feelings of uncomfort, will continously go towards revealing greater depth of character, power, comfort, command. This naturally will start creating the exact opposite reaction your currently creating. Like moths to a flame... you will begin to attract.
Such is the rewards of the path of the DJ.
I suggest you check out my other thread in the TIPS section.
[thread=113815]Comftorable Feeling Sexy!?[/thread]
It breaks down the exact process of inner-alchemy your looking for.
Peace'
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
Find a weird girl and have some weird sex.
Hey Rint,
I'm a pretty weird kid too. I'm very secure about it, and that's who I am.
There are plenty of people who think I'm annoying as ****, while others think I'm hilarious.
There's really nothing I can do to change who I am, so I just sort of accept it. I say weird, funny things, I get VERY interesting reactions from the things I say, and truthfully, I really don't care if people like me or not, because that's just who I am.
If I were you, I would embrace the weirdness and just live with it.
Now, there are bad, insecure kinds of weirds too. But it seems to me that you just say weird things that are sort of funny. I really can't say for sure that you shouldn't change because I don't know how you're acting.
Can you give me an example of something that's weird that you do/have done?
I'm a pretty weird kid too. I'm very secure about it, and that's who I am.
There are plenty of people who think I'm annoying as ****, while others think I'm hilarious.
There's really nothing I can do to change who I am, so I just sort of accept it. I say weird, funny things, I get VERY interesting reactions from the things I say, and truthfully, I really don't care if people like me or not, because that's just who I am.
If I were you, I would embrace the weirdness and just live with it.
Now, there are bad, insecure kinds of weirds too. But it seems to me that you just say weird things that are sort of funny. I really can't say for sure that you shouldn't change because I don't know how you're acting.
Can you give me an example of something that's weird that you do/have done?
insanity
Master Don Juan
being weird is unique and it sets you apart from the rest of societies lemmings. how many people in society conform to whats in. when i was living in the dorms and friends was on tv, i observed that when the laugh track came on everyone laughed too. then when somebody rented a movie that was dark humor nobody laughed because there was no laugh track when something funny happened and when 4 or 5 people said that movie sucked everyone agreed.
be glad your weird. i like weird people. i always find myself talking about the weird guy at work and the foolish things he says and does.i think he's cool.
trust me your not the only one whose weird out there and im sure you'll meet a weird chick who will rock your world
be glad your weird. i like weird people. i always find myself talking about the weird guy at work and the foolish things he says and does.i think he's cool.
trust me your not the only one whose weird out there and im sure you'll meet a weird chick who will rock your world
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
>> i am very silly foolish annoying weird. I dont know how to stop being weird.
Being 'weird' is not necessarily a bad thing, as long as it's not childish, immature, "look at me" type weird. 'Annoying' is not an endearing trait to women.
Attention-getting type weirdness is, as mentioned above by DL, is just a function of your ego. It probably worked for you sometime in the past, in some capacity, and your ego is quick to use what (it thinks) worked in the past.
Just be in the moment and observe your actions. When things start to go off to that end, hit the Ego-Override button, pull it back and redirect.
Be samurai.
Being 'weird' is not necessarily a bad thing, as long as it's not childish, immature, "look at me" type weird. 'Annoying' is not an endearing trait to women.
Attention-getting type weirdness is, as mentioned above by DL, is just a function of your ego. It probably worked for you sometime in the past, in some capacity, and your ego is quick to use what (it thinks) worked in the past.
Just be in the moment and observe your actions. When things start to go off to that end, hit the Ego-Override button, pull it back and redirect.
Be samurai.
I'm weird. Or unique. Or creative. Or something that is other than normal and DESPISES normal. A lot of people do not get my sense of humor, my swagger, or my passion. Or why I have some less-than-typical hobbies. If your "weird" is creepy or annoying, stop being so "weird." If it's original and fun, keep doing it.