getting rid of one-itis

[Baruch]

I know I got a one-itis towards a female friend of mine who is no longer interested in me, and I am late on the train.

I am trying to get rid of it by keeping myself busy with things that are important to me. We kind of have push\pull relationship that doesnt really workout as friends. We dont hang out, we only see each other through other friends and she rarely talks to me online unless I message her.

Even though I got rejected by her last week, few days later we went to a movie with some friends. She laughs at everything I say, stares at me and playfully hits me at times when I tease her. 3 weeks before we were clubbin and she asked me to dance, then started running her hands through my wavy hair. These would be signs of interest. But she will never message me, call me and just be indiffrent throughout the rest of the time that I do not see her.

one of her female friends took interest in me and I am going to take that to my advantage and ask her friend out. After I got rejected though and her friend got intersted, she called me when we were supposed to be at the same party, but i left the party before her for another one. She kept calling me and asking me how was the other party. So she was showing interest, curiousty in what I was doing when I wasnt near her. But then she'll be indiffrent again when I message her, or even act snotty like she dont care if we talk or not.

But I didnt let it bother me this whole week, ive been busy with my own life and didnt think of her at all which were good signs...until last night, when I had a dream about her...sorry, I cant control my dreams. It was a romantic dream, not sexual. I mean common, ROMANTIC? sh!t! WHAT IS HAPPENING TO ME?!

Because of this dream, I started thinking of her today. How do I get rid of these thoughts\emotions towards this flaky "friend" of mine?

ps: I think next time I see her, I'll just isolate her and plant one on her. She may scream for harrasmant or go "wtf are you doing?" But I just want to get it over with.

 

[frivolousz21]

http://www.jbspencer.com/djb/



that my friend is the DJ bible..you need to start reading it..take a long look in the mirror..and be ready for massive change to how you percieve reality as it is to you now.

I wish you well on this.

keep us updated

 

[Wyldfire]

Your friend is an Attention Wh*re. She doesn't want you...she just likes knowing that you want her and she can have you anytime she wants. But the fact is...she doesn't want you and she never will. You are nothing but a plaything to her. ANY girl who acts interested but then pushes you away when you make advances is using you for attention...period.

Not only does she not want you...she's not really a friend, either...you are just a fooish little minion to her. Have some self respect and stop hanging out with this girl...she's not worth your time or energy.

 

[Jack McCrack]

Stop hanging out with her. Stop calling her.

Get with her friend.

 

[Baruch]

Originally posted by Wyldfire
Your friend is an Attention Wh*re. She doesn't want you...she just likes knowing that you want her and she can have you anytime she wants. But the fact is...she doesn't want you and she never will. You are nothing but a plaything to her. ANY girl who acts interested but then pushes you away when you make advances is using you for attention...period.

Not only does she not want you...she's not really a friend, either...you are just a fooish little minion to her. Have some self respect and stop hanging out with this girl...she's not worth your time or energy.

Ive known her a long time now and we hang around the same circle. She did want to hook up with me the past summer but I thought her parents didnt approve of me, and I acted foolishly because of it and didnt make any moves when she invited me to her appartment and always complimented me on something. Apperantly, its quite the opposite, her folks actually trying to hook us up, along with her whole family who I happend to be pretty close to.

But what you are saying makes alot of sense that females do treat guys this way to get attention, I just didnt think it would be the case with her, since she was...formerly intersted.

 

[Wyldfire]

Originally posted by Baruch
Ive known her a long time now and we hang around the same circle. She did want to hook up with me the past summer but I thought her parents didnt approve of me, and I acted foolishly because of it and didnt make any moves when she invited me to her appartment and always complimented me on something. Apperantly, its quite the opposite, her folks actually trying to hook us up, along with her whole family who I happend to be pretty close to.

But what you are saying makes alot of sense that females do treat guys this way to get attention, I just didnt think it would be the case with her, since she was...formerly intersted.

That's the thing with girls like this...they DO "act" interested...but they are NOT interested. They only act that way to hook you and keep you hanging on for entertainment when they're bored. I know hearing that hurts, but it's true. She's toying with you and will continue to do so until you cut the puppet strings.

 

[Baruch]

Originally posted by Wyldfire
That's the thing with girls like this...they DO "act" interested...but they are NOT interested. They only act that way to hook you and keep you hanging on for entertainment when they're bored. I know hearing that hurts, but it's true. She's toying with you and will continue to do so until you cut the puppet strings.

I know for a fact she was interested in me before, she told that to her cousin whose my best friend.

i dont think she was lying to him. The shmuck told her that I cared for her when he shouldnt have.

 

[ketostix]

GFTOW. The only fix is to ignore her and let her see you going after other girls. Again Wyldfire is only half right. This girl most likely wanted to shag last summer, but now she treating you like an AFC toy thing. Ignore her, hit on her friends, GFTOW, that's the only thing that will help this situation.