"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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volkme68

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I met this girl over a year ago. things were going good, lots of sexual tension and all that. Unfortunately, things never got much farther, as I was gone for a few months. When I got back, a former friend was dating her (former b/c of some unrelated BS). I didn't really talk to her much, seen her around here and there, she was always flirty and showed lots of IOI's and said we should hang out.

Lately, we have been seeing eachother a lot and have started to talk/hang out again. She is a sort of oneitis with me, very pretty (easy 9), smart, etc. When we hang out, she is all over me, even if her BF is around. She will completely ignore him for me. we have great chemistry and get along great. All of her friends see us together and think we are a couple and ask her why she is with her d-bag BF. She has told more than one of our mutual friends that she really likes me but doesn't know how to go about geting rid of her current BF. He is also a bit of an AFC and won't break up with her.

I am cautious about being played, though I don't think this is the case. I have known this girl for quite a while I don't buy things for her, and she knows I wouldnt if we were a couple either. Normally, I wouldn't be interested in a girl with a BF, but this is different. Besides, I am not too worried about hurting his feelings. I know I am gonna here the "your an *******" and get over her ****, but that's not what I am asking for.

Just wondering if anyone else has been in similar situation, and if you have had any success with getting rid of the other guy? Any help?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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pingpongz

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you should pay a girl in a bar to go up to him and kiss him while you stand back and take a picture :)
 

Aragon034

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yeah it's perfectly possible.

kinda hard to advise though, depending on the girl and how close they actually are it might be easy, it might be hard.

And no matter what, if it's you who breaks them up then you do come off as sleazy. Personally i'd just leave it as her choice. get with the goods or stay in comfort d-bag zone.
 
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