"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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getting rid of BF

volkme68

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I met this girl over a year ago. things were going good, lots of sexual tension and all that. Unfortunately, things never got much farther, as I was gone for a few months. When I got back, a former friend was dating her (former b/c of some unrelated BS). I didn't really talk to her much, seen her around here and there, she was always flirty and showed lots of IOI's and said we should hang out.

Lately, we have been seeing eachother a lot and have started to talk/hang out again. She is a sort of oneitis with me, very pretty (easy 9), smart, etc. When we hang out, she is all over me, even if her BF is around. She will completely ignore him for me. we have great chemistry and get along great. All of her friends see us together and think we are a couple and ask her why she is with her d-bag BF. She has told more than one of our mutual friends that she really likes me but doesn't know how to go about geting rid of her current BF. He is also a bit of an AFC and won't break up with her.

I am cautious about being played, though I don't think this is the case. I have known this girl for quite a while I don't buy things for her, and she knows I wouldnt if we were a couple either. Normally, I wouldn't be interested in a girl with a BF, but this is different. Besides, I am not too worried about hurting his feelings. I know I am gonna here the "your an *******" and get over her ****, but that's not what I am asking for.

Just wondering if anyone else has been in similar situation, and if you have had any success with getting rid of the other guy? Any help?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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pingpongz

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you should pay a girl in a bar to go up to him and kiss him while you stand back and take a picture :)
 

Aragon034

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yeah it's perfectly possible.

kinda hard to advise though, depending on the girl and how close they actually are it might be easy, it might be hard.

And no matter what, if it's you who breaks them up then you do come off as sleazy. Personally i'd just leave it as her choice. get with the goods or stay in comfort d-bag zone.
 
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