Getting revenge on my ex

[Suspens]

Not worth the efforts and troubles. Don't be a sore loser.

 

[salinechow]

My friend always says:"The best revenge is to live a great life."

Atom Smasher and others gave you wisdom and I hope you are strong enough to heed it. You made the mistake of getting involved with this woman to begin with. Then you made the mistake of allowing her in again. We have all done this. Some of us even repeat it. However, true growth comes for owning responsibility of your own mistakes. Stop blaming her. You are accountable for what you allow in your life. Revenge is just an extension of your own weakness. Because you are not holding yourself accountable you do not see where you must grow. You are projecting blame onto her. She acted the way most women do. Grow in order to be able to detect this sooner.

Revenge will hinder this growth and feed the monster of insecurity and opaque vision. If you seek revenge on this girl you with hobble your own foot for a journey you must take within yourself. In stead of hating her, love yourself. Blame yourself and then forgive yourself and then promise yourself you will be better for it and move forward. Revenge is the opposite.

Your choice. Grow or wither.

One day your growth will come regardless. Will it come from a forced circumstance of suffering or will you seize the day you have sown and grow on your own?

I hope for you it is the latter.

Sorry you are hurting.

Welcome to SS. Reach out if you need to but be sure to accept what is offered.

 

[logicallefty]

I have thought long and hard about what I do for exacting revenge on people. Some deserve only an NC...but the most heinous one's? They deserve a full nuclear strike.

I agree. I think it comes down to what they did to you, and the impact it has on you.

For most average everyday breakups if all she did was break your heart, NC alone is the way to go. Suck it up and move on, and get a better woman and have a better life.

For the ex that doesn't do anything but talk sh|t about you, a "cease and desist" letter that I mentioned before will likely do the trick... Especially if you research the laws about slander, libel, and defamation, and cite the laws in there. Most of the time anyone who sees laws and statutes, etc. in a letter threatening to sue them will get the pI$$ scared of them and stop. You could have a lawyer write it but if you really make it sound serious you can do it yourself. One may argue "oh let her talk about you however she wants".. NnnnnnnO..... Slander and libel and defamation can be serious especially if you are in my shoes trying to get my position as a police officer back. You say sh|t about me you can expect me to act. Nobody else is going to protect my rep but me. In my State our laws require that it's clear who is being talked about. So if an ex just posts "my ex is a nutcase" referring to you, she didn't refer to you by name, so you have no case. But if she does use your name you have a case. We have a Judge in my county who will award you damages if you sue the person and bring him ONE Facebook post talking about you in a derogatory manor. ONE POST is all he needs and you will be awarded damages.

NOW, for the ex that really crosses the line like mine did, go for the jugular but make sure it's LEGAL. With my ex she cheated on me with 3 men, was married to 2 others, got me arrested, made me loose my job as cop/Detective, and some other stuff. So what did I do? Background checked her and got evidence of the bigamy and turned her in, turned her into the State for food stamp fraud (with evidence I had), filed a complaint with animal control after getting intelligence on how she treated her animals, printed out my phone records of her taking to a married man from her phone I paid and sent the records to the guy's wife, turned her into the IRS for some tax laws she broke, turned her in for student loan fraud, and turned her in for health insurance fraud, got copies of a police report where she tried to kill herself and sent it to her ex so he could use it against her in child custody. I had evidence of all these things that I dug up along my travels. I never once contacted her, drove past her house, hacked her email or other accounts, or did anything illegal. Everything I did was by the law over the table. You may not have a big of a piece of sh|t ex as I had, but hopefully you get the idea.

 

[j.619]

"The greatest revenge is massive success" - Frank Sinatra

 

[j.619]

NOW, for the ex that really crosses the line like mine did, go for the jugular but make sure it's LEGAL. With my ex she cheated on me with 3 men, was married to 2 others, got me arrested, made me loose my job as cop/Detective, and some other stuff. So what did I do? Background checked her and got evidence of the bigamy and turned her in, turned her into the State for food stamp fraud (with evidence I had), filed a complaint with animal control after getting intelligence on how she treated her animals, printed out my phone records of her taking to a married man from her phone I paid and sent the records to the guy's wife, turned her into the IRS for some tax laws she broke, turned her in for student loan fraud, and turned her in for health insurance fraud, got copies of a police report where she tried to kill herself and sent it to her ex so he could use it against her in child custody. I had evidence of all these things that I dug up along my travels. I never once contacted her, drove past her house, hacked her email or other accounts, or did anything illegal. Everything I did was by the law over the table. You may not have a big of a piece of sh|t ex as I had, but hopefully you get the idea.

I respect how you handled this situation. I'm not generally a proponent of 'revenge'... because most folks let the emotion of the situation dictate how they deliver said revenge. You carried out your revenge thoughtfully and flawlessly without hurting anyone or doing anything that sacrifices your integrity (or doing something illegal). Well played.

 

[BrainDamage92]

You have personal responsibility that you got involved with a person who you cant stant in reality so, and no she wasnt OK and then BAM ****ed up out of the blue, you cant change another person, and the more ****ed up **** you pull the more you show that you love her and care for her which you obviously dont want. The opposite of love is not hate and all that stuff. So cut contact and if she badmouths you or whatever dont pay attention to it this will really work against her in the long run.

Women like to paint exes black TO HAVE REVENGE, we dont, we dont care, all we care about is were hurt and this stupid little woman means so much to us when she really shouldnt. Badmouthing the hellhound ex in front of your close friends or even complete strangers of course, is inevitable but they both wont spread rumours and its natural to do it to a certain extent couse almost everyone needs to feel their acts are justified by something greater than "I want", when in fact, in these kinda matters, what you want is all that matters. You didnt want to be with her so you broke it off - or in reverse, doesnt matter, why so butthurt? If you feel exploited, is it her fault that she used\****ed around with you or was it yours because you chose to trust the wrong person? Is it the snakes fault when it bites you or is it yours that you got bit? Same thing with women, can we really call them SESNSIBLE? Or rather sensual and sensitive.

But having revenge? Lol. Its all your fault in the end couse you went blind from the smell of ***** didnt you. And you dont even mean spreading rumours but rather wiping phones? Hello, you cant be 10 forever

Dont be childish

 

[MegaMind123]

If you can do it without getting caught, I say do it. All of the "karma" and "you are better than that" are weak responses imo.

How do you know that you are not the one Karma sent to take care of this?

Take life by the balls and when someone sends one of your guys to the hospital, you send two of theirs to the morgue (hat tip: untouchables).

Thought about it for hours weighed my options I'm thinking she would just talk sh*t "can't believe you" or threaten to do things but wouldn't go through with it then I would ignore her and this would be her huge f*ck you and goodbye.

She has attempted to break into my emails before and once I confronted her she denied it all but the attempt was coming from her exact location.

If she did contact the cops I would be f*cked but I'm almost positive she would try to contact me in the future to have fun and if she involved the law this can't happen.

If she didn't mess up this bussiness plan I would have moved on, Now I am only thinking of the right moment to do the deed. Maybe tonight, or the end of the week I'm not sure yet.

I have blocked her from calling and texting and ended up having to change my number the only thing left is to ruin her email. At'least I am not exposing her nudes on Facebook.

 

[Trump]

I think PlayHerMan said it best back when. The bad thing about letting her have it is she knows she's got emotionally and that's the only thing she cares about. Getting to your emotions are of the utmost importance to her. She has affected you without touching you.

Plus, you will be giving her what she wants: Attention. Attention is a like a drug to them. They will crush lives and livelihoods if it gets them attention.

I've seen worse OP. I would just ignore, it will drive her crazy when you withdraw your attention.

 

[Boxer00]

Take life by the balls and when someone sends one of your guys to the hospital, you send two of theirs to the morgue (hat tip: untouchables).

What a dumb ass!

 

[SamTheHobit]

If you can do it without getting caught, I say do it. All of the "karma" and "you are better than that" are weak responses imo.

How do you know that you are not the one Karma sent to take care of this?

Take life by the balls and when someone sends one of your guys to the hospital, you send two of theirs to the morgue (hat tip: untouchables).

+1 Agreed. If it makes him feel better, why the f##k not?

 

[kukuku]

doing that is the most beta thing you can do. stop being weak and start looking for new hot chicks.

 

[kukuku]

Thought about it for hours weighed my options I'm thinking she would just talk sh*t "can't believe you" or threaten to do things but wouldn't go through with it then I would ignore her and this would be her huge f*ck you and goodbye.

She has attempted to break into my emails before and once I confronted her she denied it all but the attempt was coming from her exact location.

If she did contact the cops I would be f*cked but I'm almost positive she would try to contact me in the future to have fun and if she involved the law this can't happen.

If she didn't mess up this bussiness plan I would have moved on, Now I am only thinking of the right moment to do the deed. Maybe tonight, or the end of the week I'm not sure yet.

I have blocked her from calling and texting and ended up having to change my number the only thing left is to ruin her email. At'least I am not exposing her nudes on Facebook.

instead of being a beta loser being stupid, get a new hot chick and then flout that you have a hotter chick.

 

[kukuku]

+1 Agreed. If it makes him feel better, why the f##k not?

cause its beta. betas get oneitis, get screwed over, whine, either sulk away or go for revenge. alphas are out the next day searching for hot chicks, soon forgetting about their ex.

 

[ku ku ku]

Alphas smash their enemies AND get a new hot girl. They are not mutually exclusive.

Too many $hitbags today get away with crap, don't let them. Logical lefty is a great example of this kind of alpha. Good work mate!!

he was a beta for the entire relationship. hes still a beta after. hes not ever creative with his revenge. hes no alpha. your a beta too by advocating beta behavior. meanwhile im an alpha going for hot chicks and not having oneitis

 

[ku ku ku]

Acting like a frustrated child is going to get you nowhere.... Cut her off from the rest of your life and move on.

frustrated beta child, displayed beta behavior in and out of the relationship. if he wants hot chicks stop with the beta behavior.

 

[ku ku ku]

Of course you are cupcake.

your the ultimate beta. he didn't have to be where he is, but he was a pvssy beta while with the girl and got walked on. he shouldn't have been a beta. his revenge is beta and uncreative and obvious. and your encourageing his being a beta. a real guy is alpha not beta

 

[Desdinova]

Des, I'd love to hear more. Start a thread on this?

What is there for me to say? I cut contact and moved on. She pops up right after I kick out my ex-wife and has been chasing me ever since. I go out with her, tease the 5hit out of her, use kino, never kiss her, never fvck her. I just do the same 5hit I do to all the other women I flirt with, except I never go any further. She's stuck in LJBF hell.

 

[kukuku]

If he was beta then I would agree with you.

If she was a true cvnt, then you could not be more wrong.

your a beta homosexual

 

[Atom Smasher]

Well now, he told you, didn't he, Danger?
:crazy:

 

[mikey2012]

All an act of revenge EVER does to a woman is to justify in her own mind that she made the right decision and that you are a loser. It slams the lid on her indecision and makes her "certain" that she is right and that you are a low-life not worthy of her time.

The ONLY way to teach a woman a lesson or punish her (and I do believe that women need to be disciplined and sometimes punished) is to remove attention and convey indifference toward her. Lack of attention and indifference is the only chink in a woman's formidable armor.

Women have considerable armor because they are supported by the herd (the current cultural female paradigms of the day plus the web of friends she has). This is a huge cushion of support for her. Add to that her ability to backward-rationalize anything, and we see that revenge actually only comforts her and aside from the practical (like losing email in this case) doesn't hurt her and it teaches her nothing.

But since almost all women are incorrigible attention hores, she is extremely vulnerable to indecision about relationships, and to removal of caring.

Secondly, revenge always hurts the inner psyche of the one doing the act of revenge. It takes away self-respect on multiple levels. It demonstrates to yourself that you lack self-control and it keeps her as the jailor and you as the incarcerated.

Whoever is occupying your thoughts is your jailer. Flip the script. Become completely indifferent, detached, yet cordial with her. Demonstrate that you can easily move on and that you are superior to her in intrinsic value and worth. You have decided that she doesn't meet your requirements. After all, the truth is that she doesn't.

Recognize that the most colossal "F You" that you can give to a girl is to become indifferent. It makes her go internally ballistic. Revenge, in contrast, gives her the direct opposite... resolution to her doubts, closure, and peace of mind.

Punish women with indifference. It is a devastating weapon because it diminishes her worth and elevates your own. The downside to this is that the effect on her is mostly invisible to you. The pain is being dished out but you don't get the pleasure of seeing the suffering. That's where we need to trust in your knowledge of how the female mind works.

The bottom line is that you walk away clean and with self-respect, and are reminded of the principle of abundance. It's walking out of jail.

Pure fking GOLD. Someone stick this in TIPS/BREAKUP SECTION PLZZZZ.

If I may add, walking away and indifference is like a computer virus that gets to the heart of her invisibly. You may not get the instant gratitude of calling her a kunt or throwing acid in her face but over time this will eat at her because lets face it ultimately most relationships/marriages fail and she will left wondering if she made the right choice by dumping you. If you improve yourself while she is wasting away then this will be the final nail in the coffin. She will always wonder what would have been....This is the ultimate revenge.