AC/DC
Master Don Juan
How do you gain respect from your peers?
Boys and girls both?
Boys and girls both?
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Getting respect?
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Nex
Senior Don Juan
Man, the problem here is that you've got to establish your part from the start!
If people didn't respect you yesterday, doesn't matter what DJ you become they aren't going to miraculously being respecting you today.
Unfortunately, first impressions are the ones that stick!
The first people I met in Brazil here last year met me as the completely AFC I was, till today they roll their eyes at me. It's ****ing annoying and it makes me ****ing want to beat the **** out of them.
So I just stay the hell away from them.
Now the people who I met at school met me in the "bad boy" kind of style, so they respect me so much they're afraid of me.
BUT you already knew this...
You've given me advice over AIM before. What's up?
If people didn't respect you yesterday, doesn't matter what DJ you become they aren't going to miraculously being respecting you today.
Unfortunately, first impressions are the ones that stick!
The first people I met in Brazil here last year met me as the completely AFC I was, till today they roll their eyes at me. It's ****ing annoying and it makes me ****ing want to beat the **** out of them.
So I just stay the hell away from them.
Now the people who I met at school met me in the "bad boy" kind of style, so they respect me so much they're afraid of me.
BUT you already knew this...
You've given me advice over AIM before. What's up?
AC/DC
Master Don Juan
I'm poor at following my own advice.. hahaOriginally posted by Nex
You've given me advice over AIM before. What's up?
Joe The Homophobe
Master Don Juan
DON'T BE FRIENDLY, DON'T BE NICE
do you want respect as a friend, or respect as more like fear? (such as respect you give to a bully)
When you become too friendly with a lot of people in High School this tends to lead to disrespect. How? because once you are close to someone you can make fun of that person and not give them the sort of respect that one gives to non-friends.
If I don't make sense look at this example. You will joke around with friends, they can make fun of you etc, but you can't do that to the guy in class that you don't know well. Why? because you don't know what could happen and you don't know him enough to do that on a friendly basis. Nobody likes to start fights.
Don't let everyone think that you are their friend.
Im not saying you treat people like crap, im saying that you should quit being friendly. No more saying hi to people first time you see them in the day (let them say hi to you), no more treating girls like queens, keep smiles to a minimum, be serious most of the time, less joking around with people, look people in the eye when you talk to them at all times, don't share your secrets with anyone.
Another example is what the DJ Bible says about keeping girls interested by being mysterious and not letting girls know your feelings etc. Think of it as not being too nice,friendly with people in a way to keep a distance from them. Be your own man, have a "independent guy, minds his own business' aura around you.
do you want respect as a friend, or respect as more like fear? (such as respect you give to a bully)
When you become too friendly with a lot of people in High School this tends to lead to disrespect. How? because once you are close to someone you can make fun of that person and not give them the sort of respect that one gives to non-friends.
If I don't make sense look at this example. You will joke around with friends, they can make fun of you etc, but you can't do that to the guy in class that you don't know well. Why? because you don't know what could happen and you don't know him enough to do that on a friendly basis. Nobody likes to start fights.
Don't let everyone think that you are their friend.
Im not saying you treat people like crap, im saying that you should quit being friendly. No more saying hi to people first time you see them in the day (let them say hi to you), no more treating girls like queens, keep smiles to a minimum, be serious most of the time, less joking around with people, look people in the eye when you talk to them at all times, don't share your secrets with anyone.
Another example is what the DJ Bible says about keeping girls interested by being mysterious and not letting girls know your feelings etc. Think of it as not being too nice,friendly with people in a way to keep a distance from them. Be your own man, have a "independent guy, minds his own business' aura around you.
man, that's a good advice, meaning that it works and you are going to be respected, by following it. but guess what? ur not going to have much fun, not having friends... who are you going out with in the evenings? who are you going to play sports with? who are you going to have a bike-trip with?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.