"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Getting psyched to work out

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Hi im not a stranger to this forum, but this is my first time posting in this section. I'm gonna get my head out of the "AFC-Land" of the DJ forum and focus on improving myself through building wealth and getting fit.

Anyways, to my question...

I have a problem with motivation to work out and finding my intensity during the set. I used to use energy drinks to try to help me and it worked great, but pretty much only temporarily. I think my problem is mainly mental.

Right now im looking into meditation and more specifically the aspect of it where you learn to manage pain and see if I can use it in my set to achieve better tolerance--Not to mention other mind power techniques.

Any suggestions are welcome.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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how long do you lift?? the beginning is always the hardest when you aren't used to feeling the weights out :) lol meditation , drink alcohol for the time being until you get used to it, but it isnt the best for your gains you know =)
 

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If you need energy drinks to go all out in the gym then your diet is possibly lacking in carbs.

Yes, the mindset does play a part but even the most determined lifter can't operate if he's not feeding the machine.

What's your eating like?
 

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Originally posted by Social_disturbance

Right now im looking into meditation and more specifically the aspect of it where you learn to manage pain and see if I can use it in my set to achieve better tolerance--Not to mention other mind power techniques.

Any suggestions are welcome.
Maybe some of my experience will help you.

I find that I dislike to actually start going to the gym, literally I hate going to the gym: I have to get my bag, drive... walk...feeling cold on the way... it seems very pointless to me.
I do not enjoy the trip to the gym at all. And this somehow reduces my overall desire to work out since before working out I will have to get up and go to the gym.

But it works like magic: once I am in the gym, it is a complete reverse: I feel I want to work out! They have a perfect temperature there and every time I see the gym I want to work out. It worked for me every single time!
My desire to work out magically appears right in the gym!

But it mysteriosuly dissapear when I come home. I don't see anything that inspires me and I'll have to actually gooo... to the gym. This for some strange reasons decrease my inspiration.

How do I deal with it? I figured out I don't have to. I simply do not care, pretend I do not care about the gym while I am on my way to the gym. I simply go and do not think about working out.
Once I am in the gym, it feel perfectly ready to work out.

So maybe there is something that deters you from working out?
It might something you simply didn't notice: eating too much... eating too before working out, not eating enough before working out, dislike the gym, dislike going to the gym etc etc.
Try to figure this out for yourself first.

Regarding intensity: again, maybe it works only for me, but sometimes a couple of minutes of running on a treadmill before a workout helps me a lot. Not walking, but running (at least 6-7 speed on a treadmill).
It sets a higher rhythm for me, i.e. higher intensity.
 
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I usually lift about 40-50 minutes at a time...training one or two muscles in a session--I started to read about Max OT and am gonna try to go by those principles (4-6 reps; 6-9 sets; 40 min. workouts).

As for my diet, I cant really say that I eat well--but I try to. I usually eat 3 times a day, and I try to load it with alot of protein. I drink an Isopure shake after my workout and then try to eat about an hour after that.

As far as what I eat...I usually make a ham and cheese omellete in the morning (3-4 eggs), whatever lunch I can get (if im working that day), and for dinner usually chicken breast, pasta...steak occasionally.

I think its fair to say though that im not eating alot of carbs in general.

What types of carbs, how much, and how often would you suggest?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Low GI carbs to keep bloodsugar and energy levels constant: oats, brown/basmati rice, wholemeal pasta/bread, yams, potatoes (high GI but I find them very sustaining personally).

How much depends on the sort of day you have - if you're very active have bigger portions.

You should be eating full meals (protein+carbs or protein+fats) 5-6 times a day anyway, so that's how often you should be eating - the last meal of the day should be just lean protein and veg/salad and maybe make your carb/fat cutoff earlier to avoid bodyfat gain.

I see a lack of pre-workout nutrition in your diet, which is very important.
 
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