"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Getting past LMR

Cerwin Vega

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Dating this girl for a week. She's coming over to fool around, but won't "allow" me to take off her pants.

Heavy make out sessions, heavy grinding, she's moaning hard, I'm reaching to unbutton her pants and...."No".

-"You're right..we shouldn't be doing this"
*Continue, try again after few minutes*
"No!"
-"Wanna feel something?" *put her hand on my *****
"Wow...it's gonna hurt" (not bragging) "Look..it's only our 4th date and we're moving too fast"
-"You're right. I never put out that quickly"

She later asked me if we can have a "normal date" and on multiple occasions said "I never move this quickly".

She won't acknowledge us as a couple (fine by me) and keeps ****testing me ("you still have to prove yourself")

Thoughts?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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CerwinVegaFan said:
She won't acknowledge us as a couple (fine by me)
If it's fine by you, why did you mention it? And after a week? Hilarious!

She enjoys the attention you give her as you give yourself blueballs. She's done this to a lot of guys. You're just the latest.

Get her worked up, say 'I've got to go' and leave.

She's effin with your head and you are playing along. Flip the script.
 

jurry

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Lol to "we shouldnt be doing this"

Love that line..
 

Harry Wilmington

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So many mistakes...

* "Dating this girl for a week."

Which means you should have only taken her out ONE time so far. How many times have you and this girl seen each other in this first week?

* "She later asked me if we can have a "normal date" and on multiple occasions said "I never move this quickly".

Have you even taken her out on an actual date yet, or have they all just been "hang out at home" dates? And again - how many dates have you been on with this girl so far? If you're saying she's said on "multiple occasions" that she never moves this quickly, it sounds like you've been seeing her WAY TOO MUCH - enough for their to have been a number of times for her to tell you something. No bueno.

* "She won't acknowledge us as a couple"

Duh! Of course she won't - you've only been dating her for a week! Women need at least 3 months of dating to feel comfortable enough with you to emphatically state that she's your girlfriend - you're rushing in way too fast.
 

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Harry Wilmington said:
So many mistakes...

* "Dating this girl for a week."

Which means you should have only taken her out ONE time so far. How many times have you and this girl seen each other in this first week?

* "She later asked me if we can have a "normal date" and on multiple occasions said "I never move this quickly".

Have you even taken her out on an actual date yet, or have they all just been "hang out at home" dates? And again - how many dates have you been on with this girl so far? If you're saying she's said on "multiple occasions" that she never moves this quickly, it sounds like you've been seeing her WAY TOO MUCH - enough for their to have been a number of times for her to tell you something. No bueno.

* "She won't acknowledge us as a couple"

Duh! Of course she won't - you've only been dating her for a week! Women need at least 3 months of dating to feel comfortable enough with you to emphatically state that she's your girlfriend - you're rushing in way too fast.

Good stuff here.

How would you expect to be a couple only after a week?

Pushing for sex wiill always give you LMR.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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