"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Getting past LMR

Cerwin Vega

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Dating this girl for a week. She's coming over to fool around, but won't "allow" me to take off her pants.

Heavy make out sessions, heavy grinding, she's moaning hard, I'm reaching to unbutton her pants and...."No".

-"You're right..we shouldn't be doing this"
*Continue, try again after few minutes*
"No!"
-"Wanna feel something?" *put her hand on my *****
"Wow...it's gonna hurt" (not bragging) "Look..it's only our 4th date and we're moving too fast"
-"You're right. I never put out that quickly"

She later asked me if we can have a "normal date" and on multiple occasions said "I never move this quickly".

She won't acknowledge us as a couple (fine by me) and keeps ****testing me ("you still have to prove yourself")

Thoughts?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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CerwinVegaFan said:
She won't acknowledge us as a couple (fine by me)
If it's fine by you, why did you mention it? And after a week? Hilarious!

She enjoys the attention you give her as you give yourself blueballs. She's done this to a lot of guys. You're just the latest.

Get her worked up, say 'I've got to go' and leave.

She's effin with your head and you are playing along. Flip the script.
 

jurry

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Lol to "we shouldnt be doing this"

Love that line..
 

Harry Wilmington

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So many mistakes...

* "Dating this girl for a week."

Which means you should have only taken her out ONE time so far. How many times have you and this girl seen each other in this first week?

* "She later asked me if we can have a "normal date" and on multiple occasions said "I never move this quickly".

Have you even taken her out on an actual date yet, or have they all just been "hang out at home" dates? And again - how many dates have you been on with this girl so far? If you're saying she's said on "multiple occasions" that she never moves this quickly, it sounds like you've been seeing her WAY TOO MUCH - enough for their to have been a number of times for her to tell you something. No bueno.

* "She won't acknowledge us as a couple"

Duh! Of course she won't - you've only been dating her for a week! Women need at least 3 months of dating to feel comfortable enough with you to emphatically state that she's your girlfriend - you're rushing in way too fast.
 

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Harry Wilmington said:
So many mistakes...

* "Dating this girl for a week."

Which means you should have only taken her out ONE time so far. How many times have you and this girl seen each other in this first week?

* "She later asked me if we can have a "normal date" and on multiple occasions said "I never move this quickly".

Have you even taken her out on an actual date yet, or have they all just been "hang out at home" dates? And again - how many dates have you been on with this girl so far? If you're saying she's said on "multiple occasions" that she never moves this quickly, it sounds like you've been seeing her WAY TOO MUCH - enough for their to have been a number of times for her to tell you something. No bueno.

* "She won't acknowledge us as a couple"

Duh! Of course she won't - you've only been dating her for a week! Women need at least 3 months of dating to feel comfortable enough with you to emphatically state that she's your girlfriend - you're rushing in way too fast.

Good stuff here.

How would you expect to be a couple only after a week?

Pushing for sex wiill always give you LMR.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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