Blackhole105
Don Juan
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Well, this last week i had an epiphany. It was the last week of finals at my college I finally got a chance to talk to this cool girl I've been crushing on for a while but never had the balls to talk to. Turns out that she's a friend of my friend and we all ended up smoking together on Monday. While we were hanging out something just clicked in my brain. At first I was only attracted to her physically (as I've never talked to her before this point), but now I got to see her personality. I thought: "she's so cool, smart, funny, mature,etc.", "this is type of girl I want to be with." Well anyway my friend leaves to take a final and me and the girl talked for a bit, before she went to type a paper in the library.
Anyway, I think it finally hit me on the drive home, "she's the type of girl I need to be with to be in a happy relationship." Before I thought she was cute, but that's nothing new; I think a lot of girls are cute. It was her personality that made me think she's be a really great gf. The only thing holding me back was realizing that I'd never have that chance if I didn't get over my shyness and poor social skills around people.
I just got out of a 7 month relationship with a girl who really did nothing for me personality wise (as the others before/after her), because that's all I've had up to that point I thought most girls were like that. This new girl really just made me realize that there are "right" people for a person, and "wrong" people for a person. I never knew that before, and I certainly have never been with a "right" person.
I saw her again at school on friday, and we had a nice conversation before she had to go take her last final. I was pretty sure she was giving me some IOI's the most obvious being that when she left she asked me if I had a myspace, and I after I said I didn't she kinda stood there for a second then said we'd see each other again and left. I was definitely kicking myself for not asking for a number, but we have a mutual friend so it isn't impossible to get her number and I'll probably ask my friend for it if I ever get over this siht.
So basically I get anxious and flustered around "cool" people, and girls I truley like (I guess I never really "liked" my ex which is why it was easy to date her). And am extremely self-conscious about myself, the only reason the conversation with her on friday was "nice" is because I was stoned and had no inhibition during the conversation. When I give speeches or talk to people that intimidate me (at least 75% of people) I blush and start sweating which makes continuing the speech/conversation very difficult because my mind is preoccupied with the blushing and sweating.
I need to make some new friends first of all. I have a nice handful already, but I'm ashamed to admit at least half of them are my friends. I think I only hangout with them because there's no one else and I'm not anxious around them. I get invited to hangout with "cool" people now and then, but I always fcuk it up be being quiet and nervous, and I always wait for them to call me and never call them.
I hope this recent incident motivates me to go through with this finally, but the purpose of this post is to get some tips, and/or experiences from some of the posters. Some preliminary steps I've taken in the last month are going to the gym regularly and im trying to eat healthier. I also plan to make an appointment with my doctor tommorow and get some meds that may help me (I'm not looking for a cure, just something that will help me help myself).
Anyway, I appreciate any help offered...this is the longest and most personal post I've ever made so I guess that's a step in the right direction
Anyway, I think it finally hit me on the drive home, "she's the type of girl I need to be with to be in a happy relationship." Before I thought she was cute, but that's nothing new; I think a lot of girls are cute. It was her personality that made me think she's be a really great gf. The only thing holding me back was realizing that I'd never have that chance if I didn't get over my shyness and poor social skills around people.
I just got out of a 7 month relationship with a girl who really did nothing for me personality wise (as the others before/after her), because that's all I've had up to that point I thought most girls were like that. This new girl really just made me realize that there are "right" people for a person, and "wrong" people for a person. I never knew that before, and I certainly have never been with a "right" person.
I saw her again at school on friday, and we had a nice conversation before she had to go take her last final. I was pretty sure she was giving me some IOI's the most obvious being that when she left she asked me if I had a myspace, and I after I said I didn't she kinda stood there for a second then said we'd see each other again and left. I was definitely kicking myself for not asking for a number, but we have a mutual friend so it isn't impossible to get her number and I'll probably ask my friend for it if I ever get over this siht.
So basically I get anxious and flustered around "cool" people, and girls I truley like (I guess I never really "liked" my ex which is why it was easy to date her). And am extremely self-conscious about myself, the only reason the conversation with her on friday was "nice" is because I was stoned and had no inhibition during the conversation. When I give speeches or talk to people that intimidate me (at least 75% of people) I blush and start sweating which makes continuing the speech/conversation very difficult because my mind is preoccupied with the blushing and sweating.
I need to make some new friends first of all. I have a nice handful already, but I'm ashamed to admit at least half of them are my friends. I think I only hangout with them because there's no one else and I'm not anxious around them. I get invited to hangout with "cool" people now and then, but I always fcuk it up be being quiet and nervous, and I always wait for them to call me and never call them.
I hope this recent incident motivates me to go through with this finally, but the purpose of this post is to get some tips, and/or experiences from some of the posters. Some preliminary steps I've taken in the last month are going to the gym regularly and im trying to eat healthier. I also plan to make an appointment with my doctor tommorow and get some meds that may help me (I'm not looking for a cure, just something that will help me help myself).
Anyway, I appreciate any help offered...this is the longest and most personal post I've ever made so I guess that's a step in the right direction