"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Getting Over Oneitis?

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I keep on thinking about this girl cause i dig her and she digs me too. However, we're both in college and we're separated. We're not dating but we flirt constantly and now i can't get her out of my mind. I have things to do but she keeps on getting into my thoughts. What can i do to stop obsessing over her cause she likes me and i do like her too?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I know it sounds obvious, but from experience, the best way to get over a oneitis is to f*ck other girls and to have other activities in your life.

Go out and get some p*ssy.

Seriously.

Oneitis happens when you lose perspective and get too engrossed in 1 girl. You begin to idealise the girl because you're thinking about her all the time so your mind literally creates $hit. Your mind forms some perfect amazing version of her, with a perfect, amazing relationship which in real life, doesn't work out that way. It isn't good for you mentally to have your reality warped so badly then have your hopes completely crushed.

Plus the fact that you keep obsessing over her shows YOU ARE BORED. You don't have enough to do to keep your mind busy. That's not healthy at all.

You can see how a oneitis can therefore make you insane in some cases.

So...for your own sanity...go hook up with other girls. F*ck many different girls in a short space of time if you can. Also preoccupy yourself with sport, the gym, studies, socialising with friends etc.
 
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Oneitis is a natural feeling my friend, it happens to every single man and it will happen more than once.

The best way to move on from your oneitis?

1) Accepting that things just aren't going to work out for whatever reason(s)
2) Time.

You can keep yourself busy with work and play, but these are only distraction to take your mind off the woman in question. Feelings don't just switch on and off like a light switch, it takes time.

There's a girl that I had oneitis for, I a managing to overcome it, but I won't deny that she is the one girl I'll always have a thing for and that has helped too. If you search through my thread starting history, you'll see an excellent post by Rubato on the issue of oneitis. His post helped me a lot and it might help you.
 
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