Getting over my first "neediness" spell

[1Italia0]

Hey Guys,

So I got some good tips from people on here on my last thread. I have to say looking back, even though it was a couple days ago, I'd like to kick myself in the ass for my thoughts lol

Hey I'm human. It's a new to me to be in a status in where I'm the one chasing so hard. But anyways this girl had me pretty good, and I gotta bounce back from it. I'm not depressed or drinking myself silly. Just a discouraged state. I go from being able to pick up women in the wink of an eye to a cripple who just for stood up.

Where's some places you guys meet quality women?

What's a good technique to start talking to them.

Thanks again everyone for all the input.

 

[gravityeyelids]

The best way is to become numb to rejection. Get rejected over and over again. I'm not talking about just from opening girls. Get used to girls ignoring your texts, get used to them flaking on your dates. If you're not failing frequently (as a beginner), you're not trying hard enough. You will quite literally grow a tolerance to it, and will cross what Tyler from RSD terms "the threshold of indifference". great place to be at.

as for places?? I mean it depends where your strengths lie. I personally kind of suck at club and bar game. But for some reason i'm a fvcking rock star at house parties, so i tend to go there.

I would get used to day game. That being said....this whole movement of cold approaching and randomly opening girls is not usually good for much more than getting yourself used to approaching girls. You're much better off meeting them through your social circle.

But for cold approaches....the bookstore is good, coffee shops, Target, the library, the mall.... if you're in college....then basically anywhere on campus.

Just anywhere girls hangout. You could even go to the more chick-centered places like Bed, Bath & Beyond or whatever the fvck and just claim you're getting your mom a gift if you wanted to go that far.

Just being social in general is the absolute best way; you will run into plenty of girls. And dont make it about meeting girls. Make it about putting yourself out there and meeting people in general and the girls will make themselves known.

And as far as being discouraged...I know what you mean. When it rains it pours. When you have nothing, its even harder to get girls because your game suffers because you get desperate and it shows. When you have tons of girls you're talking to...getting girls becomes easily because you have an abundance mindset. It sucks. But just accept that it's going to be hard and try not to stress out about it as much.

 

[Amilz]

The best way is to become numb to rejection. Get rejected over and over again. I'm not talking about just from opening girls. Get used to girls ignoring your texts, get used to them flaking on your dates. If you're not failing frequently (as a beginner), you're not trying hard enough. You will quite literally grow a tolerance to it, and will cross what Tyler from RSD terms "the threshold of indifference". great place to be at.

as for places?? I mean it depends where your strengths lie. I personally kind of suck at club and bar game. But for some reason i'm a fvcking rock star at house parties, so i tend to go there.

I would get used to day game. That being said....this whole movement of cold approaching and randomly opening girls is not usually good for much more than getting yourself used to approaching girls. You're much better off meeting them through your social circle.

But for cold approaches....the bookstore is good, coffee shops, Target, the library, the mall.... if you're in college....then basically anywhere on campus.

Just anywhere girls hangout. You could even go to the more chick-centered places like Bed, Bath & Beyond or whatever the fvck and just claim you're getting your mom a gift if you wanted to go that far.

Just being social in general is the absolute best way; you will run into plenty of girls. And dont make it about meeting girls. Make it about putting yourself out there and meeting people in general and the girls will make themselves known.

And as far as being discouraged...I know what you mean. When it rains it pours. When you have nothing, its even harder to get girls because your game suffers because you get desperate and it shows. When you have tons of girls you're talking to...getting girls becomes easily because you have an abundance mindset. It sucks. But just accept that it's going to be hard and try not to stress out about it as much.

I'm trying to get used to the rejection. I basically never put myself in a place to be rejected. I work a lot of hours with an odd schedule and live alone. It's very hard to get out and be social to practice.