What I always do with breakups:
- Let her dissappear for a couple of weeks out of YOUR life, meaning: exc who? No I dont have an ex in my phone, on IM, on my profile, on no nothing. Why? It's pure self defense my friend...because REMOVING her will prevent YOU from calling her, texting her etc. with the "whyyy" question...which will only turn her off even more, as you can see now.
And it does what Kontroller said: it gives her the gift of missing you, gives you your mental strength back etc.
- I'm in Energizer's corner after those weeks: I'm an exit = exit for life kinda guy. Maybe I'll let her know Im dating someone else through the grapevine of gossip, but not myself. Even if she does come back, I won't accept her as a gf again for the simple fact that I refuse to be second choice or "oeps sorry, I had doubts about your quality but now I realize that you kick ass I regret my actions earlier on"..tough luck honey, take me 100% or not at all.
Remember this trv, don't settle for less then you deserve just to "get the girl" or "get her back". It's time to move on - remove her from your life, pick up your hobbies (or new ones) again, hang out with friends, get back into the game man! If you say going out on the streets is not your thing, then we still have club game, job game, college game, online game and other day game left my friend..