"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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getting over bad days

suaveplayer

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how do you guys get over bad days where things have not gone your way, you've felt crappy, and you have not connected well with other people?

any special tricks?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Bryce556

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what if we dont have any friends like that? I was thinking working out to death might help me im going to try that. or obsessing myself over one skill i want to prefect. or go running till i pass out. somthing along the lines of. that maybe?
 

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http://www.urbandharma.org/udharma4/mpe.html

I also know some NLP tricks that put me from a reall bad mood to a good mood in a minute from Hypnotica's Ultimate Inner Game.

The key is acceptance. Don't dwell on it. Everyone seems to be getting into The Power Of NOW.

Exercise is good because it takes all your negative energy and burns it on the work. The problem is that I'm usually burnt out anyway.

Everyone has their own methods, this is what works for me, and it really does work. The problem is when you are feeling down sometimes you resist feeling good, if you know what I mean.
 
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