"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Getting over a break-up

Nikar

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Hi all,

Ok....I know this isn't a place for break-up stuff, but what happened to me was this.

Got the phone number from this HB10.
I've lived life for 20++ years and have never came across something as beautiful as her.....you think those Hollywood actresses like Nicole Kidman and Kate Beckinsale are gorgeous....but they would just get a HB8 compared to this girl I've seen.

The problem is probably due to the fact that I've been obessing over her too much for almost 1 year. Got her number recently. And guess what? As expected, these girls just love to lead you on.

You call her, she reply a bit, you call her, no reply anymore.

I've decided to Next her and get her outta my life. All of a sudden, I feel like I'm missing something. Like I feel so empty and hollow inside.

I've tried hanging out with friends, viewing lots of porn and thinking about all the girls I've known and seen, but I still seem to lack her.
It's like you can visit bars every night and **** the crap outta any girl you want, but during and after the fvcking, the empty feeling returns again.

I don't wanna get myself drunk or do drugs, though.
She's the 1st serious girl in my life, and I know this problem of mine is getting serious indeed.

So, guys, what do u do in a case like this? Let time heal and slowly get over it?

Thanks!
Nikar.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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squirrels

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Originally posted by Nikar
Hi all,

Ok....I know this isn't a place for break-up stuff, but what happened to me was this.

Got the phone number from this HB10.
I've lived life for 20++ years and have never came across something as beautiful as her.....you think those Hollywood actresses like Nicole Kidman and Kate Beckinsale are gorgeous....but they would just get a HB8 compared to this girl I've seen.

The problem is probably due to the fact that I've been obessing over her too much for almost 1 year. Got her number recently. And guess what? As expected, these girls just love to lead you on.

You call her, she reply a bit, you call her, no reply anymore.

I've decided to Next her and get her outta my life. All of a sudden, I feel like I'm missing something. Like I feel so empty and hollow inside.

I've tried hanging out with friends, viewing lots of porn and thinking about all the girls I've known and seen, but I still seem to lack her.
It's like you can visit bars every night and **** the crap outta any girl you want, but during and after the fvcking, the empty feeling returns again.

I don't wanna get myself drunk or do drugs, though.
She's the 1st serious girl in my life, and I know this problem of mine is getting serious indeed.

So, guys, what do u do in a case like this? Let time heal and slowly get over it?

Thanks!
Nikar.
Start growing up.

The fact that this girl did little more than lead you on this whole time and you still feel "empty" inside without her means that you built up this fairy-tale image of her in your head and made that a major pillar of your self-image. Not only your self-validation, but your happiness.

You need to learn to be confident in yourself with or without women. You need to stop looking to others to define and validate you. These things should come from within. As you grow and learn, it'll happen.

What you had going on was a fatal infatuation. Even if you had SOMEHOW managed to bag her, which you wouldn't because it's obvious you lacked the self-confidence and dominance to hold down a girlfriend, it would have never made you happy because SHE would never be able to live up to the pedestal you put her on.

Plus the fact that you would constantly be NEEDING her presence in your life, smothering her with attention, expecting her to solve your problems and live up to your enormous expectations...that would all just chase her off.

The simple fact is that you just weren't ready for her. SoSuave.com (.com, not .net) is an excellent place to start preparing yourself to deal with women who capture your heart in the future, but it really is a journey of self-discovery.
 

Funkopotamus

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"Getting over a break-up"

You and her where never together, why are you acting like you lost someone when all your post made us think is that you had a bad crush on a HB!

Sounds like you need to move on either way though. She is a stroker!
 

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Originally posted by Funkopotamus
"Getting over a break-up"

You and her where never together, why are you acting like you lost someone when all your post made us think is that you had a bad crush on a HB!
I'm right here with this man, just becasue you get a number does not a relationship make, I get tons of numbers, does that mean I have a kazillion g/fs? Hell no! So just because you somehow fineagulled a number out of some broad doesn't mean you were ever really "going out" with her at all, you were on step on now you're talking about "getting over her"? What's going on here do you even know how relationships work? Becasuse that's not it.
 
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