"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Getting out of your slump?

foolyoufool

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Hey Guys,

Earlier this school year I was gaming like a true DJ. Meeting lots of chicks, hooking up a lot, making all the right moves. But lately I've been way off my game. Haven't hooked up in almost 2 weeks, having trouble getting the courage to talk/dance with chicks, and when I do, I've been getting rejected alot.

Basically my love life is feeling a lot like A-rod right now.

I've tried a lot to get out of this slump. Reread the DJ Bible, been out on the town with buddies, I'm paying attention to my body language, and still very few results. I've mostly gotten over hesitating to approach but I'm still largely unsuccessful when I converse. What do you guys do when you find yourself in a "slump?" How do you pull yourself out of it and start getting tail like crazy again?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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a slump for you is not hooking up in 2 weeks? pfft mate try 4 months you would hit anything

:nervous:
 

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Solomon said:
a slump for you is not hooking up in 2 weeks? pfft mate try 4 months you would hit anything

:nervous:
Haha well I was just so sucessful earlier on. And I think it's better to have high standards so you push yourself
 

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Mike32ct said:
2 weeks is not a slump. It's coming up for air lol.

In all joking aside, the game goes in cycles. Slumps are completely normal.
Yeah, thats what I figured, I just figured that 2 weeks seems like a long time without any new pzzy. Especially when ur not fapping, MAN it gets tough sometimes!
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Yeah, I'm on week three and feel like in slump too, I've been without a new girl for longer but that was when I wasn't even picking up girls, but this time I tried and failed, but only once so far. Got to keep on trying.
 

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NobodyCares1 said:
Yeah, I'm on week three and feel like in slump too, I've been without a new girl for longer but that was when I wasn't even picking up girls, but this time I tried and failed, but only once so far. Got to keep on trying.
Yeah, so is there anything new you are doing to try to pull yourself out of your slump?
 

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Yeah, so is there anything new you are doing to try to pull yourself out of your slump?
Pof is great for slumpbuster easy to get 3-6's if you need to bust it open

Just saying

:rolleyes:
 

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Take care of your priorities first. Are you behind in school and slacking on working out? I just got over having double pneumonia and I'm super behind on a lot of stuff.

I'm a grad student and I still go out to the bars on thursday nights just because, lets face it.. you can stay in but when you know a lot of your friends are out around 10pm 11pm having a good time you can't even focus anyway so you might as well go out and let loose a little.

I've been off my game a lot because I have a lot on my mind mostly being behind on school work and not working on myself as much (weight lifting and triathlon training).. so with that on my mind it's got me down and of course when I go out I have so much racing through my head that I'm prob just not a good conversationalist at the moment until I get caught up..

Maybe something similar is happening to you? Anything else going on in your life that is on your mind effecting you?
 

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headFirst said:
Take care of your priorities first. Are you behind in school and slacking on working out? I just got over having double pneumonia and I'm super behind on a lot of stuff.

I'm a grad student and I still go out to the bars on thursday nights just because, lets face it.. you can stay in but when you know a lot of your friends are out around 10pm 11pm having a good time you can't even focus anyway so you might as well go out and let loose a little.

I've been off my game a lot because I have a lot on my mind mostly being behind on school work and not working on myself as much (weight lifting and triathlon training).. so with that on my mind it's got me down and of course when I go out I have so much racing through my head that I'm prob just not a good conversationalist at the moment until I get caught up..

Maybe something similar is happening to you? Anything else going on in your life that is on your mind effecting you?
You bring up a good point, I've definitely been more focused on my studies this semester than I have before. Do you think that its true that too much work and no play makes Jack a dull (and pzzy-less) boy?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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foolyoufool said:
Yeah, so is there anything new you are doing to try to pull yourself out of your slump?
Not yet, I have a lot to do this week, but I'll definitely try something then. Also it's not so much about trying something new, more like getting into the mindset I had two months ago and get out there, meeting chicks. I tried that for last three weeks, but two times I got drunk so I didn't even talk to any chick, and last week, well I guess not such a great occasion and bad mindset.

But when you guys say that you are behind on something, well I have it a lot on me for the last three weeks, so that might be the problem too. Thankfully it should end next week. :cheer:
 

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Sneevox said:
It's like you're centering your life around gaming.

Don't you have anything else to do?
Haha of course... I focus a lot of school work and going to the gym. But when I go out I've been having problems closing, but I see your point. I should be looking more at the big picture of my life rather than just focusing on gaming.
 
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