Getting out of a funk

[cognos]

By way of introduction, here's some background on me and a request for your advice.

I'm 34, and have had only one girlfriend. She had initiated contact with me online. We broke up six months later due to my neediness and dependence.

I've always been generally shy, having very few friends, and spending most of my time behind the computer. God knows I've tried numerous things: dancing, speed dating, online dating, a dating workshop, joining a lair and sarging. And every time I have been beat down by self-defeating behaviours.

I've looked at the promise of seduction in multiple ways: to attract and have sex with a woman of my own choosing, that I do not have to pay for; to be a socially competent guy with a decent social circle; to develop an interesting and fulfilling life. Right now I am far from these ideals, even after being exposed to the community since 2006. I'm like this ****-scared animal in a cage; I guess that's why I always loved the song Bullet with Butterfly Wings.

I have deliberately kept detail to a minimum and will on request divulge more if necessary. What I would like to request from the forum is ideas as to what I can do now to move towards my ideals. I'm open-minded and willing to be corrected and try anything that is solid advice.

Thanks in advance.

 

[Kevin Feng]

The biggest problem I see with most PUAs nowadays is that they don't realize how much work it takes to get good at this.

Take mystery/matador, they're good and all, but the only reason they got to be that good at what they do is because they do it all the time. They go out 6 nights a week, it's just part of their daily routine.

"If you want to see change in your life, you must change something you do daily" - John C Maxwell.

A lot of guys only go out twice a week, it's hard to make progress like that, if you work, you need to approach during the day.

You don't need to do what I did ( did 6 months of straight pick up post college ), but you do need to make a solid commitment to game. Anyways, start from square one.


http://theasianplayboy.blogspot.com/2006/05/impact-approach-30-seconds-to-make-it.html

-Kevin

 

[trajhenkhet02]

Killer technique only comes from killer practice for most of us humans. I'm no natural by any means. I took a few month hiatus from doing any dating since I've been trying to get my life in order. I went from having some decent skills (not great mind you) almost back down to where I was before I new this site existed because I can get shy sometimes. I think the only to get better at something social like this is to keep interacting until you don't feel uncomfortable anymore in that situation.

 

[Interceptor]

I think you will benefit from:


Dr. Paul Dobransky's Mature Masculine Power and Mind OS.

David Deida's The Way of the Superior Man

Real Social Dynamics The Blueprint Decoded

David Deangelo's On Being a Man, and Deep Inner Game.

Eckhart Tolle's The Power of Now


I would definitely suggest these resources to get you started on building a good, solid foundation with no fake bullsh*t.