"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

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Getting mixed signals from this girl

WrEcKLeSS2000

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Hey guys,

I just started dating (or hanging out) with this girl. We met on Match.com and we met up for coffee. It went pretty well. Looks wise, she's average at best.

We had a good convo and we have alot in common. The problem is that this girl told me that she is really inexperienced with dating and I can tell. Usually, I would think it's bs but she does seem really inexperienced.

Anyway, she wasn't touchy feely with me at all. I got in a little basic kino not much so I really don't know where I'm at with her.

I just scheduled another "hang out" or "date" with her in a couple days for mini golf. However, I offered to pick her up and she said that she wants to meet me there.

I was disappointed because I was hoping to pick her up but anyway, I think she's just a little shy or inexperienced or cautious.

Honestly, I want to see if this is going to go anywhere when I hang out with her so I don't waste anymore time. Believe me, if she's too much of a prude, I'm ready to next her but I'm giving it one more chance.

My questions are, what's the best way to handle a girl like this. Should I even offer to pay for her? How can I escalate with this chick a little more? Like should I try holding her hand? What are the best ways to escalate things to see if this is going anywhere or if I need to next her and move on?
 

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Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

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GS750

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She wants to meet you there so don't press the issue. Mini golf is a easy way to build some comfort, just have fun. Then go for drinks afterward. And yea, pay for the date.
 

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She's inexperienced. You have to start the initiating. Do the mini golf to have fun. Then take her somewhere else to escalate. Don't expect to get laid on the second date.
 
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