Getting Mad, Cant do it!!!

[Dave_Hanson]

I am starting to really hate myself, i just can't bring my self to talk to attractive girls, i have 0 confidence and I just feel I will be laughed at if I do approach a girl. There is a girl in one of my classes who I find attractive, i spoke with her last week and I have just chickened out every time this week when i coulda just said anything to her. I dont have the confidence to just walk up to a girl and start talking, I dont know what to talk about!!

How did you all get the confidence levels you have???
I need desperate help, this may sound pathetic, but I do truly need help because it is starting to ruin my life!!

 

[Unbridled_1]

just drink alcohol all day long, this way you will have courage. Seriously, at somepoint you have to take the plunge. Remember, you're a man, now act like one.

 

[SamePendo]

Develop a Skill

Develop a skill, and become the best at it. I repeat:
Become the best at it.

And know you are the best.
Next time you go with a girl, keep in mind that you rule, that nobody does ______ as you do.
Also, read kamasutra-like stuff, stuff about how to have sex, not to actually have sex. But so you have in mind that you know innovative things to do if she offers herself to you.

YOU ARE THE BEST

 

[simplyme]

Ignore the reply from unbridled. You must be aware of your surroundings.
First ask yourself, why you are intimidated by beautiful women. How can a beautiful woman harm you in a way a man or an ugly woman cannot?
Then start just talking to them. Do not try to get numbers or dates, just try to have a pleasant small talk, until you get comfortable with that (I do not recall, where I stole that tip).
After that, you can go for more.

 

[stallion]

Or. you can start from a ugly women and slowly up it so you'll get used to girls more.

Or try boot camp.

 

[SLIKKER_THAN_AVG]

Try people in general before attractive girls..that way itll make it easier...

Also..i would suggest you apply for a job that requires you to talk to people on a regular basis..it would develop your interpersonal skills alot..at least thats what i found with me.

try the approaching section of the DJ BootCamp..i think its week one.

Later

 

[PRMoon]

Work your way up. If you can't start at the very top of the pile, then try hitting just outside of a range you feel comfortable at. If you're hitting on a girl you only feel a bit uncomfortable hitting on but not too bad so uncomfortable where you can't talk to them, then you're on the right track. Hit on girls that are just outside of your comfort range for a while until you get completely confident talking to them. After that try hitting on girls who ar just a bit hotter then that and you feel comfortable with. Soon you'll be working your way up the ladder, and you'll comfortable hitting on anyone.

 

[PANK]

You know there is a great way that i learnt its wierd and kinda tough but anyone and i mean anyone can do it. All i did in clubs was ask hundreds of girls for ons for kisses for numbers, some in front of friends some not, this was of course unsucsessful BUT it taught me to get over rejection and i didnt have to say anything. Now i am learning to talk and flirt and last week it went very well.
Now im trying this method in the street i just go up to whoever and ask i never got any but you know if i keep doing this my confidence grows more and more and when a decent opportunity comes to talk for a while i will HOPEFULLY be able to.

 

[legolas]

Start talking about stupid things like the class, the professor, something going on around the school anything, while not attempting to do anything else. Ask her about some school project, or comment on a reply from her.

Okay you can't do that right?

Alright then do this. During a class where participation is required or wehere your opinion can be expressed freely, then by all means do so. Expressing your opinions is a great way to develop confidence. Just don't say anything stupid.

Like during an English class while talking about Shakespeare's Romeo an Juliet and the themes in there, say something like: "I think the Romeo was way too much clinged on Juliet and that's what ultimately hurted him in the end." This will spark a discussion about true love and you can say that "sometimes true love gives you a pair of blinders and you never see what's going on around you, and you end up getting hurt."

I think my ability to express my opinions during college is what increased my confidence in general. You only take a risk the first time and if you're a hit, then no more need to take risks.