Getting Lucky While In The Friendzone

[jaymbrs]

This is not aimed so much at the guys wanting LTRs.

Looking back on the women I've slept with I've come to the realization that a good chunk (maybe 30%) of them resulted from me just hanging out in the friend zone. While it may not be the fastest way to get laid, in some cases it does result in some unexpected action. In all honesty, the friend zone is just being put in a "holding pattern". If you're spinning enough plates, you won't even realize the small amount of effort you're even putting into these "friendships" and before you know it, one of them experiences a bad break up and needs some comforting.

Guys, I'm speaking from personal experience here. LJBF does not mean she won't sleep with you at some point. Just put it in neutral and go find other women in the meantime. It's not a guaranteed thing but what is?

 

[Urbanyst]

What you are talking about is NOT the friendzone.

The friendzone is when you make sexual moves on a woman and she rejects you, but is willing to stay friends. The friendzone is not when you have several female "acquaintances" you hang out with every once in a while but aren't f*cking or trying to f*ck for one reason or another. Sh*t.. I have loads of those lol.

There are lots of women whom I would f*ck under the right conditions, but are not willing to actively "work" on f*cking. These are my "acquaintances". Sure, I'll invite them to my birthday party, go to happy hour with them, etc. This is not the friendzone to me. These women are my orbiters.

 

[jaymbrs]

What you are talking about is NOT the friendzone.

The friendzone is when you make sexual moves on a woman and she rejects you, but is willing to stay friends. The friendzone is not when you have several female "acquaintances" you hang out with every once in a while but aren't f*cking or trying to f*ck for one reason or another. Sh*t.. I have loads of those lol.

There are lots of women whom I would f*ck under the right conditions, but are not willing to actively "work" on f*cking. These are my "acquaintances". Sure, I'll invite them to my birthday party, go to happy hour with them, etc. This is not the friendzone to me. These women are my orbiters.

Hmm I must not know what the friendzone is then lol

My definition of orbiters are girls who I know are attracted to me and I can text or call on to accompany me somewhere or just to BS with. Friend zone to me is a girl who has rejected me but keeps me around. My point is there's nothing wrong with hanging around as long as one isn't continuing to put forth effort or focus on that female.

 

[jaymbrs]

Have to be honest with your true motivation for the friendship. Better to make moves on your actual female friends than to maintain a fake friendship for ulterior reasons(complete waste of time). My female friends drop off the planet when they get in a relationship anyway so it's a moot point.

I hear what you're saying but I'm using the word "friend" loosely here. Not someone who you talk to on a daily basis or anything like that. Just someone who you speak to every so often about basic stuff. Just because a girl tells you no, doesn't mean you should disappear and never return. Which is what I read is the best thing to do on here. I respectfully disagree with that.