Getting lucky: girl completely out of my league showing interest?

[icantgetlaid]

I don't understand why there seems to be so much controversy over the fact that I'm taking an objective look at myself right now.

+ I'm a good 40 lbs overweight
+ I'm introverted/lack self confidence/geeky

By all standards, based on the teachings of this site, i have a ton of improvement to make...

I guess I am taken back by the fact that this smoking hot girl with a smoking body who has tons of options im sure is showing signs of interest towards me ... Just looking for general insight / experience on this. I'm definitely going to go out with her and make a move and see what happens ... but her interest in me goes against the teachings on this site ... (economics in dating, shrewd mating game, etc.) by all intense and purposes this girl has no good reason to be interested in me .. she's well above any girl i've ****ed or am currently ****ing in terms of complete package.

 

[Tictac]

I have seen hb8/9 date only pudgy dudes, some girls like the personality more than the looks.

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Either way, let them decide if they're going to fvck you. OP made that choice for her.

 

[RedBear]

To OP, no one wants to hear you describe yourself as a big overweight geek.
Kudos on posting and describing what you think of yourself, now it's time to improve. No guy ever cares about pity parties and any woman reading this thread will just silently read. In case you want emotional drama go to a pof forum.

At this point you might be thinking: "Is she really into me or is this a joke?", "I don't have a six pack and a Porsche yet... how does this work?"
The answer to both and any following self doubting question is: It doesn't matter, do what you want.
The only clue you need is to take action and be a man.

 

[Maximus Rex]

I don't understand why there seems to be so much controversy over the fact that I'm taking an objective look at myself right now. + I'm a good 40 lbs overweight

That's Rex when he weighed in around 216. I've since dropped 22 pounds with another 20 to go. Give or take 6 pounds.

+ I'm introverted/lack self confidence

Rex is a natural introvert, with a propensity of saying anything at anytime, on top of being socially awkward.

/geeky

There's my "geek," cred. Me with legendary Spider-Man and Spawn creator Todd McFarlene. By the way, I stood in line like six hours to get that poster autographed.

By all standards, based on the teachings of this site, i have a ton of improvement to make...

So join a gym, (even if it's wack ass Planet Fitness,) start interacting with people, and talking to women.

I guess I am taken back by the fact that this smoking hot girl with a smoking body

Now she's going back to being hot.

who has tons of options im sure is showing signs of interest towards me

How do you know that she has "tons of options?" Has she told you this? Has some dude that looks like Henry Cavill, Stephen Amell, Tom Hardy, or Bradley Copper come to pick her up from work in a Maserati or a Ferrari 458? Have you seen her checking her POF or Tinder scrolling through potential dates? Or did you eff up and become one of plethora of FB friends, therefore you think that she's sucking and f*cking some of the dudes that "likes," her slew of selfies?

I'm definitely going to go out with her and make a move and see what happens

Unless you don't give a f*ck about your job, don't date your co-workers.

by all intense and purposes this girl has no good reason to be interested in me

Why do you think that she's so much better than you?

she's well above any girl i've ****ed or am currently ****ing in terms of complete package.

So you've only dated fat or chicks that were 6.5 or less?

im sure is showing signs of interest towards me.

she invited me out on halloween but i had plans so asked her out next week and she accepted.

We work quite a bit together and I've always gotten the feeling that she was flirting when laughing at my jokes, running into me in halls, starting small talk, etc. I don't know if she's just being friendly or finds me attractive.

Dude, just because she invited you out on Halloween, you feel as if she's being "flirty," laughs at your jokes, runs into in the halls, makes small talk, don't construe that as her showing "tons," of interest.

 

[nismo-4]

Oh damn!

Be careful, she might just be friendly (key word) toward you. A woman who does that at work is liable to call sexual harassment on you if you turn the convo sexual.

Alas, grow a pair, talk about meeting outside of work. Her reaction will tell all. She'll either go along with you, or be appalled that you want to be more than just friends.

If the latter, she was just an attention wh0re who didn't think you were sexually attractive. Ignore from then on.

And stop your pity party. She's not that attractive and you have her on a high ass pedestal. She's not above you. When you think that she's better than you, you lose.

Case closed. Man the f**k up and take action.

 

[icantgetlaid]

great advice..i love getting it served cold and right to the point...thanks guys!

 

[mrgoodstuff]

great advice..i love getting it served cold and right to the point...thanks guys!

NO woman is worth a pedestal. You have to remember that. They all have flaws. You likely rated her on how you thought she physically was alone.

Like they said the pity parties don't help you. If you will be better off with 40 lbs off you can do it, it takes 2-3 months working out 5-6 days a week, and a good amount of cardio and diet.

 

[Speculator E]

For now on if a girl is claimed to be a HB9 provide picture proof

Listen to him. This is not because everyone is some perv. A lot of times on here what someone claim is a 'HB9' is really a 5.

 

[NSX-R]

Everybody is right here. You think you are under her because of your fat a*s and nerdy character. Stop thinking this bs.
Think of those things only to improve yourself and not a thing to compare with others.

I have a friend, this guy is short, has terrible haircut, big nose and he's wearing cheap clothes. I'm a solid 8,9 but only in my dreams i can have as many chicks as he has. Now this guy goes with quantity and i for quality but i have deep respect for him cause he does not care that he's under average guy . He takes what he wants without thinking all the bs you have on your mind.

 

[3agle 3yes]

Sorry OP, but this is going to end badly for you.

No woman deserves any kind of respect because she's pretty. And it is quite clear that you care too much.

Read the following carefully because there is a wealth of useful nuggets here.

I don't measure a man by how successful he is, I measure him by how he responds to failure.

If you go out of your comfort zone and push yourself so you can improve, things will inevitably go bad at some point, the road to success is NEVER smooth and clear cut.

So I ask, what will you do if she doesn't like you? What if she gets bored and makes excuses not to see you? What if she starts ignoring you?

The only determining factor in whether a relationship you are involved in is going to work is how you act (especially when she behaves negative towards you).

And how you act is based on how you feel and how you feel is based on how you think.

The only thing you SHOULD think about is "how can I have fun?" and "how can I enjoy myself?" and most importantly "she is good-looking, but is that all?" and these are the only things you especially should be thinking about when you are with her.

NOT how good she looks, NOT about how much you want to f*ck her, NOT how much she is "out of your league", NOT how average you look and how shy you are.

In life, we don't get what we deserve, we get what we EXPECT.

 

[Huffman]

Man stop fretting it, just go for it. I had tons of girls crushing on me in high school even though I was fat, but I was talented and cute. It all was in my head.

Stop using that head, go for it, and if you do fail come back. But experiment first, then analyze later. Okay?

By the way, "next week" is over. How did it go?

 

[icantgetlaid]

just wanted to chime in with an update:

girl made excuse that she's going out of town and "over extending" herself by accepting date. She rescheduled for when she gets back from her trip (after nov 20th) but no firm date was set.

Sorry gents, this may have all been for nothing.

Additionally it's super awkward everytime i see this girl around the office now ...

 

[ERB]

Not sure if your not reading the great replies in this thread or ignored them.
The first thing is Never Date CoWorkers! NEVER

 

[Maximus Rex]

just wanted to chime in with an update:

girl made excuse that she's going out of town and "over extending" herself by accepting date.

Question, if

or

wanted to take her out, do you think that she would be talking some sh*t about "going out of town," and "over extending," herself.

She rescheduled for when she gets back from her trip (after nov 20th) but no firm date was set.

Like Cube said in that song so long ago, "I know the game so I watch it unfold." She schedules a date that "coincidentally," falls in the same week that Thanksgiving falls in. So guess what's she's going to be doing, a bunch of sh*t that has to do with Thanksgiving. Buying turkeys, getting egg nog, making stuffing, picking up relatives from the airport, kicking with relatives, going to door busters, and slipping away for few minutes and bringing a plate to the dude that she really wants to suck and f*ck.

Sorry gents, this may have all been for nothing.

Additionally it's super awkward everytime i see this girl around the office now ...

Maybe now you will actually listen to the advice that you're given. Don't holla at your co-workers.

 

[pyros]

let's get real:

maybe 1/100 women show interest in a guy who is clearly less attractive than her.
We all want to be that 1%, that rare exception to the rule, but it is highly unlikely.

End of story.