"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Getting laid is like planting a garden

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If you want to have sex with different women on a consistent basis you can view getting laid as an analogy to planting and maintaining a garden.

First, you need a solid foundation. Without quality soil, nothing will grow. Without self-improvement, you will not consistently get laid. Take a second and think of qualities you need to improve on. For me, it's hitting the gym and furthering my career. You can't take any shortcuts with the soil or else you will end up with a weak harvest.

Second, you need to plant and water your seeds. Talk to women and get their phone numbers. The more seeds you plant, the bigger your harvest. If one seed dies, so what, there are many more to replace it.

Third, you need to wait and watch the seeds turn in to mature plants. Many AFCs make the mistake of rushing things early on. Relax and let your seeds grow. Patience is very important because seeds don't mature overnight.

Fourth, harvest when the plants are ripe. After patienty waiting for the right moment your seeds will mature and you can harvest.

The key to maintaining this garden of poon is to be continually planting seeds, thus continually harvesting. A lack of seeds (approaches, phone numbers, dates etc.) will result in a lack of harvest.

If you like this system buy my ebook. Just kidding. Check out Rollo Tomassi's plate theory if you want to learn more about planting your garden (spinning plates).
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I don't run into that many girls I would like to date so I guess I can't plant a full garden. If I see 50 girls then there are maybe 2 or 3 that I'm attracted to.
 

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Sofomore said:
Third, you need to wait and watch the seeds turn in to mature plants. Many AFCs make the mistake of rushing things early on. Relax and let your seeds grow. Patience is very important because seeds don't mature overnight.
I agree with this, but I don't think the AFCs are to blame. Too many PUAs spread it around that if you don't fvck her the night you meet her, you're a failure. You're too slow, you're not putting off the right vibes, you're not showing your masculinity or that you're an alpha male, etc.

I think there's a lot to be said for letting your seeds take root. It's not the only way to do things, but I think it's a valid one. Depends on the situation. It helps to have real value, though. PUAs who don't have anything going for them have to be "mysterious" and hit it and quit it before the girl finds out the guy is a fraud.
 

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dadmonson said:
I don't run into that many girls I would like to date so I guess I can't plant a full garden. If I see 50 girls then there are maybe 2 or 3 that I'm attracted to.

Nonsense, you don't need to have a monstrous garden for this to work. I am very picky when it comes to girls, so I'd say 1 out of 200 catch my eye. All this means is you have to go for it without hesitation. No approaches (effort) = no seeds. It seems like you are just making excuses.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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zekko said:
I agree with this, but I don't think the AFCs are to blame. Too many PUAs spread it around that if you don't fvck her the night you meet her, you're a failure. You're too slow, you're not putting off the right vibes, you're not showing your masculinity or that you're an alpha male, etc.

I think there's a lot to be said for letting your seeds take root. It's not the only way to do things, but I think it's a valid one. Depends on the situation. It helps to have real value, though. PUAs who don't have anything going for them have to be "mysterious" and hit it and quit it before the girl finds out the guy is a fraud.
I agree with you. My intention was not to blame AFCs rather point out a common error. Many guys with no game rush for one night stands rather than planting seeds and letting them grow with patience.

That being said, some plants grow faster than others. Even within a couple hours :)
 

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carrot said:
what channels are you using to meet many women ?
Social circle, bars, online, day game.

If you are having trouble meeting women just get out more. Be prepared to approach women in any situation- grocery store, on the street etc.

Sosuave has a bunch of good articles on where to meet women.
 

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But shouldn't I stay away from dirty "hoes"?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Thanks Sofomore for this~ its really sound advice. The most correctly anagolus piece of advice ive ever read here +1 on your rep!

I would furthemore add to atom smashers comment regarding 'equipment'... many men take on wild and unruly plants - make sure that you correctly know how to prune down to size....you will then yield the best crop!!!
 

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donking said:
make sure you're not planting any weeds.
Yes, if a seed turns out to be a weed be sure to remove it immediately. A single weed can ruin your entire garden.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Thistle be an analogy that many AFCs will dig.

No more trowel and error... If you apply these simple principles she'll see you as a fungi.
 
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