Last Man Standing
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Get a 18 year old g/f - 14 if you live in Hawai - you'll feel young again!!
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Victory Unlimited said:You will find, (within REASON of course), that the PERCEPTION of a man's overall value in the eyes of OPEN-MINDED women is many times MORE important than whatever his true chronological age might be.
As far as ONLY the physical part of it goes, men who take care of themselves, and/or are blessed with good genes are not quite so handicapped by their actual age as some other guys might be.
Take a look at many old movies, magazines, TV shows, etc. and you will see a BIG difference between what people looked like, and how they carried themselves according to their age THEN, as opposed to how they do NOW.
Maybe it's a byproduct of the CONTINUING phenomena of living in a youth-obsessed culture, or maybe it's the result of many people just trying to take BETTER care of themselves, but for whatever reason-----"OLD" doesn't look as old as it used to look. lol
40 is the NEW 30...
BELIEVE IT.
Just as many chicks (if not MORE) seem to STILL be as attracted to a "DENZEL" as they are to a "TYRESE"...
March on.
I'm not quite sure I understand your situation...Do you feel that the younger people won't like you because you are so old? Or is it that you are embarrased when people your own age see you with people so young?Jariel said:I hate to admit it, but since recently turning 30 I'm starting to get quite insecure about my age.
...The problem is not so much how I feel about myself, but how I feel about the people in my life and my general social circles.
...I am surrounded by younger people, and on nights out I sometimes feel a bit too old for it and kind of insecure.
...To be honest, I wouldn't even know where or how to find an older girlfriend or new friends...
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
A chick I banged a couple of times awhile back just sent out a Myspace bulletin, one of those survey things. One of the questions was "What is the oldest you would date?" She answered "39, I think, lol"Victory Unlimited said:You will find, (within REASON of course), that the PERCEPTION of a man's overall value in the eyes of OPEN-MINDED women is many times MORE important than whatever his true chronological age might be.
It definitely helps to look younger. I usually get mistaken for being 5-10 years younger than I actually am, and I'm sure it helps my game at least a little. The last chick I went out with a couple of times told me she was worried when she first met me cause she thought I was in my early 20's! At first I didn't believe her but I think she was actually serious. I'll take the compliment!As far as ONLY the physical part of it goes, men who take care of themselves, and/or are blessed with good genes are not quite so handicapped by their actual age as some other guys might be.
Don't forget the fact that there is no longer the generation gap that there used to be. Today you can get away with dressing much younger, listening to current music, etc. It's a whole new world as far as that is concerned and I'm glad to be part of one of the first generations that doesn't have to show their age by the way they dress and act.Take a look at many old movies, magazines, TV shows, etc. and you will see a BIG difference between what people looked like, and how they carried themselves according to their age THEN, as opposed to how they do NOW.
Maybe it's a byproduct of the CONTINUING phenomena of living in a youth-obsessed culture, or maybe it's the result of many people just trying to take BETTER care of themselves, but for whatever reason-----"OLD" doesn't look as old as it used to look. lol