Getting her more interested?

[YourBiggestFan]

I first messaged this girl asking her for “girl help” and she gave me solid advice, basically telling me to act uninterested, etc. I ended up messaging her again a week later and we didnt even talk about the other girl, just talked..I would message her occasionally. Started to talk more and flirt. Then saw some depressing status, so I texted her telling her I was there for her, she told me this longgggg story. Basically she had been dating a guy up at school since october, they were on and off for the past because he got drunk, put his hands on her, took all of her stuff threw it outside and made her walk back to the campus. They broke up christmas after finding out he had been in a side relationship.
So I went the sweetheart route saying..im really sorry gorgeous. he obviously isn't looking for the same thing you are and isnt worth your time. You could get any guy you want, Ive known you for a month and I think you're this amazing girl. I cant imagine what ill think in another month or what your friends think. You're a queen you should be getting all that someones got.. it might seem like hes worth working things out with now but if he cant give you all that you're worth then he shouldnt be in your life. Guys like that repeat the same kind of stuff, most people dont change. Even for a girl that be killin em, like you baby.” to which I got “Ohmygod. You just made me cry!” she basically told me thhat it meant soo much to her that I was there for her when she needed someone. She came back to MD, we had dinner plans.Then without like telling me ahead of time told me she was going back to NJ for new years(our date would have been four days after they broke up, I didn't know she had a “guy” never mentioned him) . Invited her out to eat with me and some friends, she said maybe or she'd think about it, but wasnt sure because she didnt know them really. Didn't end up going. Basically I think she is done with the other guy, after some fb statuses she posted. But shes moved on quick, theres been a guy commenting on a bunch of her photos, and i'll see her post stuff on his facebook like “come take care of me im dyingg” because shes sick or smiley faces. I am starting to think that they have a thing to. This girl is a total hottie, I stopped messaging her for about this past week, and started to see those comments. She nevers contacted me first besides wishing me a happy bday. She is off at school right now, how would you all go about increasing her interest in me, possibly decreasing her interest in this other guy, and making it possible for her to not stand me up when she comes home. I dont think its a lost cause, yet. She acts atleast a little interested, and doesnt really ignore messages. Considering we havent even met up yet. I still talk to plenty of other girls, but I am genuinely interested in getting to know her on that "next level". Thanks

 

[Tiguere]

You were her emotional tampon. Go look that up and learn. Dont waste your time with this one. Move on

 

[YourBiggestFan]

haha I know what an emotional tampon is, I think I should be able to get something out of it at this point, I had on my eye on her for quite some time before talking to her. Would like to see if theres any way to get anything from her.

 

[Chickfight]

There isn't, you fvckin pvssy. If you had any chance with her to begin with, then you destroyed it with your pvssy words. Ever heard of not putting a girl on a pedestal? Yeah, she's really happy you're there for her.. to use as a HANDKERCHIEF. You must be a troll.

 

[Mike32ct]

I first messaged this girl asking her for “girl help” and she gave me solid advice, basically telling me to act uninterested, etc.

In the future, don't ask a female that you may be interested in for dating advice. It sends the wrong message. Even though you just wanted advice, she reads it as, "He can't get (or keep) girls. I'll be his friend, but he's not somebody I'd f&ck and/or want to date." You want to her to think you have no problems with the ladies.

I ended up messaging her again a week later and we didnt even talk about the other girl, just talked..I would message her occasionally. Started to talk more and flirt. Then saw some depressing status, so I texted her telling her I was there for her, she told me this longgggg story. Basically she had been dating a guy up at school since october, they were on and off for the past because he got drunk, put his hands on her, took all of her stuff threw it outside and made her walk back to the campus. They broke up christmas after finding out he had been in a side relationship.

You opened the door to her talking about her dating life. That leads you even closer to friendzone. Exchanging dating "war stories" is something friends do. Plus you were being her therapist or shoulder to cry in, which kills attraction.

So I went the sweetheart route saying..im really sorry gorgeous. he obviously isn't looking for the same thing you are and isnt worth your time. You could get any guy you want, Ive known you for a month and I think you're this amazing girl. I cant imagine what ill think in another month or what your friends think. You're a queen you should be getting all that someones got.. it might seem like hes worth working things out with now but if he cant give you all that you're worth then he shouldnt be in your life. Guys like that repeat the same kind of stuff, most people dont change. Even for a girl that be killin em, like you baby.” to which I got “Ohmygod. You just made me cry!”

I'm sure you meant well, but you can't logically convince her that you are the guy for her. Trying to do so has the opposite effect. Plus, telling her how great she is just gives her an ego boost and will further convince her that she's too good for you.

she basically told me thhat it meant soo much to her that I was there for her when she needed someone.

You are her teddy bear or emotional tampon.

She came back to MD, we had dinner plans.Then without like telling me ahead of time told me she was going back to NJ for new years(our date would have been four days after they broke up, I didn't know she had a “guy” never mentioned him).

She probably hooked up during New Years with mystery man.

Invited her out to eat with me and some friends, she said maybe or she'd think about it, but wasnt sure because she didnt know them really. Didn't end up going.

She didn't want to go. It was already a lost cause, but in the future, do exclusive dates. Don't bring friends.

Basically I think she is done with the other guy, after some fb statuses she posted. But shes moved on quick, theres been a guy commenting on a bunch of her photos, and i'll see her post stuff on his facebook like “come take care of me im dyingg” because shes sick or smiley faces. I am starting to think that they have a thing to.

Don't know.

This girl is a total hottie, I stopped messaging her for about this past week, and started to see those comments. She nevers contacted me first besides wishing me a happy bday.

Chicks are masters at remembering birthdays. Don't read into that. It's probably just a friend thing. Her not contacting you first otherwise is a sign of low interest level.

She is off at school right now, how would you all go about increasing her interest in me, possibly decreasing her interest in this other guy, and making it possible for her to not stand me up when she comes home. I dont think its a lost cause, yet. She acts atleast a little interested, and doesnt really ignore messages. Considering we havent even met up yet. I still talk to plenty of other girls, but I am genuinely interested in getting to know her on that "next level". Thanks

I'm sorry to say, but I think you are asking for a miracle.