"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Getting girls isn't that hard

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Honestly, I think we are freaking out about nothing. For me, the trouble was never getting them. It was keeping. But for all you guys who freak out about approaches, just go for it, there's really nothing, NOTHING, that you can lose.

Girls are more than willing to give a chance to guys who have the balls to go for it. No pussing out. I just had a brief convo (online albeit) with some random chick I don't know. Just snagged her email with possible promise of her sending me pics. I don't care if it follows through or not because that's the exact attitude you are supposed to have. Women are everywhere, why should you care about some random broad you've never met. It's not important. She can't do anything to you, so just do your own thing and succeed or don't. JUst make sure you have fun trying.

Sure, being online might have would probably have lessened the blow of a potential rejection, but that confidence and light-heartedness translated into real life is all a guy really needs. Here's the convo I had just ten minutes ago (ironically enough, I went into the conversation with no intent of getting an email):

Stranger: asl
You: 18 m **** you
You: et tu?
Stranger: 16 f usa
Stranger: hey
You: So, what's your name?
Stranger: christina
You: Christina, sounds like a stripper's name.
You: In the good way, of course.
Stranger: haha well i am a stripper haha
You: What kinda club has 16 year old strippers.
You: Sign me up! Hehe, jk.
Stranger: haha
You: SO, got any flattering pics of yourself, Christy?
Stranger: sadly no : (
You: I know you do, you can't be a 16 year old chick in America without some really...sexy pics.
Stranger: lol
You: Okay then, got any dogs?
Stranger: no
You: Aw, what the hell? Lol what do you have?
Stranger: hmm
Stranger: maybe i can find a picture
You: Maybe...lol
Stranger: i'm looking
You: Take your time, I bet it'd be worth it
Stranger: ;)
You: Last girl I talked to did modeling, do you by any chance do any?
Stranger: i used to but not anymore
You: Oh, why'd you quit? I'd kill to be able to model. I just don't know any underwear designers that can make boxers to hold my...package. ;)
Stranger: haha well i was getting busy
Stranger: so i had to
Stranger: it was a lot of fun though
You: What kinds of things did they have you do for photo shoots? I knew this one chick that was covered from belly down in melted chocolate.
Stranger: that's awesome haha
Stranger: but i just modeled for fun
Stranger: like wear fun clothes and pose
You: Cute. Well, I'd like to keep chatting, but I'm kinda busy at the moment. Stupid history paper that's due tomorrow...
You: You seem pretty cool, how do you suggest we stay in touch?
Stranger: **********@hotmail.com
You: Cool. ******@gmail.com
You: btw, my name's Chris. Don't forget about those pics (or do, Idc)
You: see ya
Stranger: haha alright
Stranger: by
Stranger: bye*
You: bye
You have disconnected.


That's a wrap. :crackup:
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Kal0051

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Umm, no offense but for some guys (like myself) getting girls is damn near impossible. I know that you think it's easy, and it's entirely possible that it is easy for you. But don't assume that it's that easy for every guy. And I'm also not making the generalized statement that getting girls is hard. It's different for every guy.
 

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That's not getting a girl. That's having a chat convo online.
You know what I meant. I'm just trying to advocate the importance of being confident in interactions. Obviously, it's harder face-to-face.

Umm, no offense but for some guys (like myself) getting girls is damn near impossible. I know that you think it's easy, and it's entirely possible that it is easy for you. But don't assume that it's that easy for every guy. And I'm also not making the generalized statement that getting girls is hard. It's different for every guy.

This is what I'm talking about: Broken confidence. What I did up there in the OP, it was online. She's never seen me or talked to me before, but we got along quite well. It all depends on how you carry yourself.
 

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Kal0051 said:
Umm, no offense but for some guys (like myself) getting girls is damn near impossible. I know that you think it's easy, and it's entirely possible that it is easy for you. But don't assume that it's that easy for every guy. And I'm also not making the generalized statement that getting girls is hard. It's different for every guy.
QFT! Some guys have all the luck.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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tihash

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Respectfully, talking to a girl online whether it's an IM, internet dating, Facebook, or whatever is not in the same universe as approaching IRL either in a bar, on the street, or at your supermarket.

I agree the end result can be the same, but the guys on here who are naturally shy can overcome their fear of in-person approaches by just doing it over and over again. Chatting on-line won't do sh!t for curing real-world approach anxiety.
 

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If you can get girls easily, good for you. But PLEASE don't make a topic saying how easy it is to get girls and post a f*cking AIM chat convo.
 

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Girls are more than willing to give a chance to guys who have the balls to go for it. No pussing out.
Man, you just described the exact opposite of most of the users here. For example, I don't have the 'balls' to do anything. I don't think it would be as straightforward for me. When such things happen, well, the process becomes a little different.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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terran2k

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shes not going to send you any pics.
and i agree, that's not getting a girl.
 

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That chat sounds kind of like some perv predator type thing. If you ever go to her house you're liable to have Chris Hansen waiting on you lol.
 

Just a Shot Away

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zekko said:
That chat sounds kind of like some perv predator type thing. If you ever go to her house you're liable to have Chris Hansen waiting on you lol.
Naw, the oldest they ever have is 15. Not that I pay that much attention or anything...
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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San Jose California said:
If you go up to a girl at a bar and ask "can i touch your boobs?" the worst she can do is say no.
I'm gonna steal that pickup line.
 

Chromeo

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WTF are you doing talking to 16 year olds online? You are 18 and meeting girls on the internet? thats regodamnediculous

unless youve boinked every girl in town, which i highly doubt since your idea of getting girls is talking to a stranger online.

christ kid
 

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San Jose California said:
If you go up to a girl at a bar and ask "can i touch your boobs?" the worst she can do is say no.
True, but that's also the ONLY thing she will say.
 

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UserFriendly said:
You: I know you do, you can't be a 16 year old chick in America without some really...sexy pics.
Really?

You are one creepy, creepy guy.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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