bukowski_merit
Master Don Juan
Jesus fvcking christ!!!!!!!! I have opened 3 threads today and all of them sound the same!!!
This one girl..... special girl.... breakup... remain friends... fvck buddies.... want her back.... i know i can do it.... .....
at least you seem to have some game.... does that work in your favor? actually, no. the odds are still very much stacked against you.
If this was a race - you just broke your leg.
There's so many things wrong with telling a woman you want her back - it goes FAR beyond just putting the ball in her court.
She will now:
1) Be weary of being around you for fear that you may try to seduce her.
2) Whereas before - she may have had no problem fvcking you on the side - she will not hesitate because she doesn't want you to get the idea that she wants to get back together.
3) Feel a stronger bond to her boyfriend. Believe it or not - forcing her to say that she wanted to be with her boyfriend and not you made her reinforce that later in her own head.
4) See you as in-congruent. You're a man who dumped her, and you're now saying you want to be back with her. You want her to leave her boyfriend who probably makes a good "provider" type, to be with someone who could possible dump her again???? You're in a HUGE double bind here.... Because it would take a TON of reassurance from you that you aren't going to do the same thing... And guess what? Her horniness level will go down drastically with all that reassurance... Because that's not very challenging is it??? On the other hand - if you don't give her that - she will NEVER take your requests to be back with her seriously. Why would she risk dropping a sure thing guy that she probably has control over for you??? Once women find good providers - they're very unlikely to risk a relationship with a guy who can hurt them. They're much more likely to fvck a guy who can hurt them on the side. This should have been the role you looked to fill UNTIL she started desiring to be with you again.
5) She will believe it very easy to manipulate you and you opened the door for a TON of tests.
You REALLY lost a lot of value and mystery to her.
I would say - based on what you have said....
You have about a 30% chance of have sex with her once she gets to your area (more if her boyfriend starts being AFC and clingy. less if he remains alpha.)
You have about a 10% chance of starting a relationship with her.
And about a 1% chance of that relationship lasting....
I can be done... But you will have to play every card with perfection... One wrong move - and you will become the joke.... a fool...
I would advise you stick with gaming women... But you're gungho about taking over the world - she conquer on.
This one girl..... special girl.... breakup... remain friends... fvck buddies.... want her back.... i know i can do it.... .....
at least you seem to have some game.... does that work in your favor? actually, no. the odds are still very much stacked against you.
More so than any other thing in this post, or anything anyone else said - THIS was a huge mistake. HUGE!alamo said:
If this was a race - you just broke your leg.
There's so many things wrong with telling a woman you want her back - it goes FAR beyond just putting the ball in her court.
She will now:
1) Be weary of being around you for fear that you may try to seduce her.
2) Whereas before - she may have had no problem fvcking you on the side - she will not hesitate because she doesn't want you to get the idea that she wants to get back together.
3) Feel a stronger bond to her boyfriend. Believe it or not - forcing her to say that she wanted to be with her boyfriend and not you made her reinforce that later in her own head.
4) See you as in-congruent. You're a man who dumped her, and you're now saying you want to be back with her. You want her to leave her boyfriend who probably makes a good "provider" type, to be with someone who could possible dump her again???? You're in a HUGE double bind here.... Because it would take a TON of reassurance from you that you aren't going to do the same thing... And guess what? Her horniness level will go down drastically with all that reassurance... Because that's not very challenging is it??? On the other hand - if you don't give her that - she will NEVER take your requests to be back with her seriously. Why would she risk dropping a sure thing guy that she probably has control over for you??? Once women find good providers - they're very unlikely to risk a relationship with a guy who can hurt them. They're much more likely to fvck a guy who can hurt them on the side. This should have been the role you looked to fill UNTIL she started desiring to be with you again.
5) She will believe it very easy to manipulate you and you opened the door for a TON of tests.
You REALLY lost a lot of value and mystery to her.
I would say - based on what you have said....
You have about a 30% chance of have sex with her once she gets to your area (more if her boyfriend starts being AFC and clingy. less if he remains alpha.)
You have about a 10% chance of starting a relationship with her.
And about a 1% chance of that relationship lasting....
I can be done... But you will have to play every card with perfection... One wrong move - and you will become the joke.... a fool...
I would advise you stick with gaming women... But you're gungho about taking over the world - she conquer on.