"Getting" Ex Back

[Kayl]

Ok Going to be honest here, i had oneitis with this girl and still have at some point, but not as severe as it once was, i had alot of trust issues with her, from the one year and a half we had a LTR she hanged out with guy, wich they had a mutual attraction, wich i caught early on before escalating, at the time she told me they never did anything bla bla, anyway she cut completly with him, and i decide to let that one go trought.

Anyway i like to point , we were deeply connected, but we were around each other always 24\7 wich wanting or not it kills the lust, and the excitment. BIG BIG BIG Mistake! Partially my fault too , being to available and too nice to her.


Two weeks ago she went visit her parents 400km away, meanwhile she hanged out with one of her long time friends, they known eachother for like 10y, and the guy in this period confessed his love for her 3 times and got blown out everytime. Anyway this time was different she told him that she was afraid to admitt but always liked him bla bla , The guy came in with lamme heavy artillery, that always loved her and been waiting for this momment the last 10y bla bla will do everything for her, will make her happy put her in a pedestal, etc etc. Anyway the IL on our relation was not so high due being around eachother almost 24\7, and women crave for emotional rollercoasts. She felt for this kinda crap.

Like a thunder she packed her **** and moved 400km staying with him, telling me that this only going to be quick vacations ( In hope i would be here waiting for her after she got tired with the guy) i told her i would never promise such thing i would get on with my life. That whole day was kinda emotional but it was weird there was no anger between eachother, we had intense sex shortly before she left and went to meet the other guy.

She asked me several times to make her change her mind and made her stay, wich i didnt.

She left, i went to hangout with my friends and chill out and not to think much about things. Later the day before going to bed the (Mind Games Started) logged in msn she was there, msg´s me telling me how much she misses me bla bla and the whole trip to the other guys place she was only thinking about me whole time bla bla , i told her that it was a mistake on her part, and tell her to get back (Classic mistake, ****ing Stupid by me i gave a deep tought about it later i cannot in a million years excuse this ****), she said she didnt want to be pressured she has to do it by herself bla bla, shortly after this i just said goodbye, she said she misses me already i tell her i miss her too log off, And blocked her msn. (No Plans to unblock it)

Went to bed, tought a bit about this Action Drama day, didnt cryed, didnt felt like my life was ending, and was actually in peace with myself, and start elaborating projects in going on with my life not that i have more free time. still it hurts but not as much as i tought it would.

Anyway this brings me to the point. I want her to regret and make her crawl to get back, tell her its too late baby you blew all the chances.

I know its egoistic i should just move on with my life but i need this ego trip, this ***** played me hard its my turn to give her a little bit of her medicine.

I Know this guy is a complete chump and she will quickly get bored with him after the novellity wears out

Anyway Mind Games continue this Morning she sent me a SMS telling me Miss You, Huge Kiss. wich i didnt replyed. I Know this kinda SMS going to continue i have no clue what reply to them in order to escalate things again.

How to Procede Guys !? This All Super Fresh, Please dont tell me its egoistic i know it is. I dont care much if i dont suceed it, but i wanna give it a go. I Truly need this Ego Trip.

 

[Eaglecreek]

1) Are you sure she's f*cking the guy cause I can't conclude it from your story
2) If she's with another guy FOR REAL, then start taking other women, once a cheater alwayse a cheater and to be honest it only shows she couldn't care less about you. Stop seeing her then!
3) Taking revenge isen't everything (I remember a time long (2 years?) ago where I had the same thing, where I started wishing the person I loved never excisted, so I'dd be spared my pain -> DON'T go there!), and I know what I'm talking about, this is only the beginning of your agony with mind games, they make being dumped or dumping so painfull.

4) Now that the lecturing is done p), you want her to crawl back to you... Start dating other people. Stay nice to her, don't give her crap like you're missing her. Just ask her hows she's doing (no need to listen to the answer) and preferably cut her off in the middle where she's telling the stuff that happens and tell her YOU need to go, NOW! (for an emergancy, so think about something good) Tell her to call you back tomorow (You don't wanna pay the phone bills, make her pay ). Now lets say you set up a date with some other girl, or just going out with mates the day afterwards thats good. She calls you, but you alwayse keep it short but be nice, and reduce the time you're talking with her every time. Because you used to show her intrest 24/7 intrest, this thing will come in as a BOMB, because your now really short with her, she'll get sad and jealous that other people are getting more of your intrest.

Will this work, if she really like(s/d)/ or love(s/d) you, it probebly will. Will this make you feel better? I doubt it, it might give you piece of mind, it might also end up with you taking her back (DON'T! Don't ever get back with your ex unless for plain "sex" where you feel nothing for her!).

By the way, considering you want her to feel bad, I don't think this relationship will ever work again anyway, so please for your own sake, don't get back with her, this isen't gonna work out and YOU'LL end up hurt (Stop caring if she'll get hurt by whats going on, and start caring about YOURSELF. If a relationship doesn't improve your life then get rid of it.)

Good luck,
Eagle

 

[Kayl]

1) Are you sure she's f*cking the guy cause I can't conclude it from your story

Eagle

Not Yet Unless they did today or yesterday but i doubt it, yesterday i made sure we had some intense Drama Sex before she left and she came several times , and just layed on my chest and fall asleep, and told me multiple times how good she feels with me bla bla bla. Anyway really dont know but my gut instinct says still not yet.

I dont know how much she is a attracted to him, she told me, before he looks like a skinny chump looking almost anoretic. Before she packed her **** she said something they their just friends and she just wanna fresh her head ( Big Bull****) One thing i found funny she had so much stuff on my house that she still has to come here again to get the other half of her stuff. She left her lingirie telling she was not going to need it.

Anyway Follow up

I Replyed the SMS i got earlier wich Said Miss you Huge Kiss

with How are you ? Hope you doing fine. Kiss

She Quicky Replyed with

Yes, Love, It has been raining here. I Miss you very much, Cant Stop Thinking about you. A Kiss of Ours

What the Heck i will reply to this !?

No Clue how to procede.

 

[Kayl]

Need help here guys on how to procede

 

[WC2]

Need help here guys on how to procede

How to proceed? GET OUT.

Listen, whether or not your girl cheated on you isn't the point. The point is she really doesn't care that much about you. She plain got up and left you to stay with another guy.

If you've suspected her of cheating in the past, what make you think you're not going to wonder about it later on? Trust me, I've been in these relationships with women like this and they are not healthy.

She may still be attached to you, but this is only because you were together for so long. Eventually she's going to hop on to the next best thing.

Trying to make her "feel bad" is just the first stage of denial. You'll most likely end up failing and it's just going to drag out your hurt more. Forget about making her feel bad. Feel your pain; realize what shes done and how selfish she is. It's healthy to vent and hurt when you need to. Next, try moving onto other women. This one is NO GOOD for you man. I've been in plenty of relationships and I can tell you that while I thought I loved all these women, there isn't ONE relationship I regret breaking off.

 

[Kayl]

Im going to let it go i figured it will only hurt me more, and im just fooling myself.

Well seems im Back to the Game

 

[Eaglecreek]

How to proceed? GET OUT.

Listen, whether or not your girl cheated on you isn't the point. The point is she really doesn't care that much about you. She plain got up and left you to stay with another guy.

If you've suspected her of cheating in the past, what make you think you're not going to wonder about it later on? Trust me, I've been in these relationships with women like this and they are not healthy.

She may still be attached to you, but this is only because you were together for so long. Eventually she's going to hop on to the next best thing.

Trying to make her "feel bad" is just the first stage of denial. You'll most likely end up failing and it's just going to drag out your hurt more. Forget about making her feel bad. Feel your pain; realize what shes done and how selfish she is. It's healthy to vent and hurt when you need to. Next, try moving onto other women. This one is NO GOOD for you man. I've been in plenty of relationships and I can tell you that while I thought I loved all these women, there isn't ONE relationship I regret breaking off.

Yep fully agree, like I said, will getting back at her make you feel better, seriously doubt it, you'll probebly end up feeling like sh*t yourself. Best thing is to let go

 

[KontrollerX]

"I Truly need this Ego Trip."

You really don't need it since you fvcked her like the wh0re she is before she left to be someone else's cvm receptacle.

Look she's a wh0re and I'm sorry she hurt you but here is how you work this.

Cut off all your emotions surrounding her because she is relationship cancer.

When she gets back she'll probably try to manipulate you back into some form of joke of a relationship with her.

Don't make any effort at all at meeting her or getting together with her, rather make her come to you if she calls you up and really wants your c0ck.

You can't be inconvenienced to meet up with this wh0re after all.

Blow your nut all over her face and use her like the piece of trash she is for as long as you can make it last.

She will be back to take your load because that is the type of slvt she is she just wants to live out her emotional rollercoaster with this guy along with the other emotions of longing and regret concerning you.

You are a DJ my friend, you are above this garbage female drama nonsense and being above it you will make it serve you not the other way around.

So anyway how you get her back is to use her up like this when she comes to you which I'm sure she will and then guess what?

You can then "get her back" by ending this arrangement whenever you want or when you sense she's pulling away from you because you won't give in to giving her a relationship again despite her efforts of sex and slvttiness and emotional manipulation she will throw out there as a lure to pull you back in.

 

[drak_ool]

the question here shouldn't be "how" to get your ex back, but "why".
i understand revenge sounds sweet right now, but do you seriously want to put all this time into getting this girl back instead of looking for other girls?

trust me, i ve been there before: if you cut out all contact, after a while this girl will simply not matter to you anymore.

 

[Kayl]

You really don't need it since you fvcked her like the wh0re she is before she left to be someone else's cvm receptacle.

Its Weird but in my mind, it was really important to **** her one last time before she left. It kinda brought closure to my feelings. I think if it didnt had happened i would not have reacted so well to this ! Why is it so important ?

Look she's a wh0re and I'm sorry she hurt you but here is how you work this.

Cut off all your emotions surrounding her because she is relationship cancer.

This Women, drained my mental Energy, your right on the spot

When she gets back she'll probably try to manipulate you back into some form of joke of a relationship with her.

Don't make any effort at all at meeting her or getting together with her, rather make her come to you if she calls you up and really wants your c0ck.

You can't be inconvenienced to meet up with this wh0re after all.

Blow your nut all over her face and use her like the piece of trash she is for as long as you can make it last.

She will be back to take your load because that is the type of slvt she is she just wants to live out her emotional rollercoaster with this guy along with the other emotions of longing and regret concerning you.

Again its weird i know her so well, that i know that this will happen exactly like you said, and im not even going to make any effort in order this to happen, im already going on with my life. After reflecting alot this past days, i reached a point, i dont even care if she comes back crawling or not, im over her.

You are a DJ my friend, you are above this garbage female drama nonsense and being above it you will make it serve you not the other way around.

So anyway how you get her back is to use her up like this when she comes to you which I'm sure she will and then guess what?

You can then "get her back" by ending this arrangement whenever you want or when you sense she's pulling away from you because you won't give in to giving her a relationship again despite her efforts of sex and slvttiness and emotional manipulation she will throw out there as a lure to pull you back in.

Exactly the conclusion i reached by myself. You´ve put my toughts into words KontrollerX, thanks for the words.