"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Getting brought into her world?

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I would think more on the contrary, it will look lame if you dont go, as if your scared. If you want her to see you as a man then go...talk to people, and take charge of the situation...dont just sit in the corner, be pro-active and have fun!!!!
 
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True, I was just about to edit and remove my post before noone answered with the comment: "I'm an idiot and get out of my comfort zone to easily".. Fact is, I'm scared.. and it's because I so easily get into a bad state where I can not have fun.. This is something I'm working on.

Reading my post I realise how pathetic I sound and am. I guess I will just have to go there and hope for the best. Altough I still don't know what the hell disco-theme is all about and what to wear lol.
 
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Definitely, Go into her world but don't make HER the focal pooint of the outing
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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