"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Getting back into the game...

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jlazz

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Hey guys...do any of you have the same problem as me? My girlfriend last year in college was an absolute HB10. She had everything in a girl that I wanted and at the time...I let my guard up and didn't get too attached to her. Eventually, I became more and more attached to her. So for a year, I was out of the game. I feel like all the game I had went out the window. After we broke up (she transferred schools), I had no drive to meet other girls because I still kept in touch with her. Then I realized that I needed to go back out into the field and meet girls...but I have no game anymore. Its like I'm starting all over again...I don't have the same level of confidence.

But more importantly, every girl that I see now I immediately compare her to my ex. This has never happened to me with any of my other ex's. Its pretty much because my ex had everything I looked for in a girl, so whenever I meet a new girl I immediately critique her and if she match up, I lose interest.

How do I get over this? For those of you who have been in this situation before, how do you get back into the game and stop comparing girls to your ex?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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You can't compare her. I know you'll want to do it, but you'll just have to strongly snap yourself out of it every time you do it. No two people can be alike. And you're not going to find a carbon copy of your ex.

You'll have to appreciate the new women in your life for what they are. In time you'll like them in their own way.

I had a girl for a while who I thought was absolutely perfect. But we went our separate ways after she graduated (a semester earlier than I). For a while, I was depressed. But a few months later, I found a new girl. She was different, but great in a different way.

Unfortunately, I never got anything going with the second chick, but she did show me that there are other women out there to be had.

There's no such thing as the one and only one for you. If there was, the odds of you meeting her would be astronomically small. The truth is, there is a large pool of women out there that can offer a fulfilling relationship to you. However, each of them are unique and you will have to appreciate them as such.
 
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