Getting back into it

[dee-dub]

Well I experienced a breakup just recently so my game has been quite off, specially since I acted sorta AFC during, should have implemented no contact right away but whatever. So the othernight I was at this swing dancing thing in my town and my friend saw some hot girl by herself looking kinda lonely and he told me to go dance with her, so pretty much I went and gave it a shot and it went very well. I told her I might be back for another dance, and after I dance with a few more other girls, I went back to her and she stood up and I grabbed her hand, asked her if she remembered what my name was but she didnt remember.

After that I pretty much pretend to walk away from her and she grabbed my arm and tried to hold me back to dance with her, so pretty much by the end of the night I was giving lots of kino and she was doing a fair bit back.

So now pretty much I got her number and now im not sure how to go abouts the whole asking out on a date sort of thing, I have never really been that great at it...

 

[SandHawk]

Good to hear you got the balls to man up and go on with your life, and not sit at home being pathetic(like I did when my 8 year LTR exploded in my face. Took me months before I started being social again).

Now, just phone her up 2 or 3 days later, and ask her how she's been, what she's been up to. After a bit of chitchat, asks if she likes tea/coffee, and then tell her it would be great if you guys would meet for coffee/tea this weekend. DO NOT ask her to go for coffee, just tell her that you want to go for coffee with her and offer her 2 or 3 options for a meet. This method assumes the deal, and makes it more difficult for her to say no in case she wants to back off. The first get-together is the most difficult after meeting, because her memories might be inaccurate and she doubts(normal).

All it takes is balls. Assume she will say no so it won't come as a rejection when she does say no, and when she says yes, it will be a happy moment...

 

[arutha]

All it takes is balls. Assume she will say no so it won't come as a rejection when she does say no, and when she says yes, it will be a happy moment...

You should do the opposite actually... Assume she will say yes, be positive. If you expect her to say no, she will pick up on the vibe and will say no. Be positive and optomistic, expect she will say yes. Then the key is to not care if she says no because you have plenty of other options to pursue.