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Master Don Juan
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Guys,
I have been lurking here for the last few weeks and have gleaned quite a bit of useful tips from you guys. I am recently divorced (married 7 years), almost 32, have a great job, would say I am a good looking dude, and have a sarcastic sense of humor.
Wouldn't mind some of the DJs' feedback on a few things. One, I have joint physical custody of my daughter with my ex-wife so my free time is severely limited between taking care of her (and she is my number one priority) and my job that takes up a lot of the rest of my time during the week and weekends. How do I get a variety of options (more than one "plate" as you guys call them) with so little time throughout the week? I usually only have maybe a single night available during the week. I have had a little bit of ONE-itis with a female attorney I work with on a number of cases and I don't want this to happen.
Second, I live in a small town. I am very recognizable in the town being a professional and also being a part of a few service organizations and feel like if I sign up for something like Tinder this will reflect badly on me in the community. Not sure I am even interested in doing so. At the same time, I meet very few females I would be interested in throughout my work day, not to mention some that I do are clients and I wouldn't want to go down that slippery slope of asking out a client. It seems like my only real option is OLD -- but most on here seem to think it is a complete waste of time. Should I sign up for one of the more serious ones like Match or eHarmony or is this just a waste? There are some cute women at the gym I go to but at the same time I feel like it would be awkward to approach them (maybe my game just needs work).
Third, I live about 30 minutes from three different small cities. I could potentially go there, but what is the best way to bust into a completely new market? Should I sign up for a class (yoga, etc) up there and just try to meet people even if they aren't necessarily chicks?
Last question - the divorce is technically still pending. Is there any sense in putting myself out there before it is finalized? I feel like this could turn off a number of otherwise interested women. Especially on something like OLD if I go that route.
Thanks, gentlemen.
I have been lurking here for the last few weeks and have gleaned quite a bit of useful tips from you guys. I am recently divorced (married 7 years), almost 32, have a great job, would say I am a good looking dude, and have a sarcastic sense of humor.
Wouldn't mind some of the DJs' feedback on a few things. One, I have joint physical custody of my daughter with my ex-wife so my free time is severely limited between taking care of her (and she is my number one priority) and my job that takes up a lot of the rest of my time during the week and weekends. How do I get a variety of options (more than one "plate" as you guys call them) with so little time throughout the week? I usually only have maybe a single night available during the week. I have had a little bit of ONE-itis with a female attorney I work with on a number of cases and I don't want this to happen.
Second, I live in a small town. I am very recognizable in the town being a professional and also being a part of a few service organizations and feel like if I sign up for something like Tinder this will reflect badly on me in the community. Not sure I am even interested in doing so. At the same time, I meet very few females I would be interested in throughout my work day, not to mention some that I do are clients and I wouldn't want to go down that slippery slope of asking out a client. It seems like my only real option is OLD -- but most on here seem to think it is a complete waste of time. Should I sign up for one of the more serious ones like Match or eHarmony or is this just a waste? There are some cute women at the gym I go to but at the same time I feel like it would be awkward to approach them (maybe my game just needs work).
Third, I live about 30 minutes from three different small cities. I could potentially go there, but what is the best way to bust into a completely new market? Should I sign up for a class (yoga, etc) up there and just try to meet people even if they aren't necessarily chicks?
Last question - the divorce is technically still pending. Is there any sense in putting myself out there before it is finalized? I feel like this could turn off a number of otherwise interested women. Especially on something like OLD if I go that route.
Thanks, gentlemen.