"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Getting as strong as possible

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Originally posted by Warboss Alex
Since this fast becoming a 'what is strong' thread, I'll say this much.

Strength athletes in the weight lifting field are powerlifters, they train bench, squat AND deadlift, therefore I reckon strength should be measured over all three of these major lifts; someone might be genetically gifted to bench large amounts but their deadlift and squat would be laughable. However, an excellent bencher with a good squat and deadlift would be considered strong, yes.

(I'm the exact opposite by the way, my bench is significantly weaker than the other lifts, at which I excel)

Strength is also relative, genetic, blah blah blah. There's other factors to consider too: bottom-heavy athletes suited best to squatting and the like would have trouble doing pullups since their strength is concentrated in the hips-legs-glutes powerbase, yet someone with stringy wheels but a strong upper body would find chins a breeze.

If you want to applaud something, then effort, self-improvement, and dedication are to be admired, not the fact you can bench 400lbs for example - if your ass is only a buck 63 so what?
i think this is right on

or you can look at it another way and look at your progress your making. then you can say i was stronger than before
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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