getting angry with a HB over the phone

[pete101]

i met this HB a few weeks ago and i could tell right off the bat she was not physically attracted to me just the way she was looking at me and i wasn't on point with my game..

anyway we made arrangements speculatively for her to take me out next time but the situation is that she is new to the country so needs friends more than a boyfriend. firstly how do u avoid getting LJBF'd in this situation cos i assume she'd more likely LJBF you cos she needs friends?

week went by i kept calling about once a week to try to get her to meet up.. the 1st convo we had after we first met i did brilliantly C+F everything.. it's a shame i didn't use this lingo during our meeting.

anyway i think she eventually sensed i was interested in her romantically and she wouldn't give me a straight answer.. and just told me she'd tell me or let me know.. this just p1ssed me off.

so i deleted her number forgot about her.. then tonight i started going through my phone messages looking at all the old numbers i deleted cos i'm wondering if i could rekindle old plates..

i called her and she asked 'who is this?' this enraged me cos i already was p1ssed at her so i kind of lost the plot.. i called her a liar when i accused her of deleting my number when she denied it then i spent 5mins having a go at her explaining why she deleted my number cos if she didn't lose her phone and the previous times she answered she knew who it was, she clearly deleted my number.

anyway i don't know why i went on and on arguing my point but she hung up on me.

i think i was more enraged cos the last thing she said to me last time was she'd let me know when she'd be free..

i just can't take a hint.. i need to be told flat out with a straight answer cos i much rather hear that then figuring stuff out myself.

under no circumstances should u raise your voice or get angry with a girl even if she's disrespecting you in multiple ways?

it seems you have to let them walk all over you and just take it otherwise u seem a psycho.

 

[Chipleader]

You got angry. By definition this is failure.

 

[I.A.F.Y.B.]

i just can't take a hint.. i need to be told flat out with a straight answer cos i much rather hear that then figuring stuff out myself.

Learn to get the hint. Yes, it is better with a straight up answer. But, you won't always get that in the dating game. Learn by their actions and you will know.

 

[pete101]

i accept i failed. but should we just let them walk all over us with their flakey BS excuses and reasons or disapproving behaviour?

i.e. being late, not calling you back when they're suppose to etc etc.. how do u deal with these situations when u next speak to them?

i seem to draw attention too often and seem to want to be right (i.e. in my case of her deleting my number) rather than seeing the long term goal of banging her hard then not speaking to her again and let her suffer a bit with my flaking.

 

[Igetit!]

You said that you can't take a hint, huh? Well, you might as well forget about dating altogether then. Because this is like 98% of how women communicate.
If you ask a woman out and she isn't interested,she isn't going to say,"NO,I do not want to go out with you, I'm not interested". More than likely she'll say,"Well' I think you are a really nice guy. I think we should be friends". I don't care how angry you get, how annoyed, how frustrated, how infuriated, how P.O'ed you get, once you get over all those emotions and you get back to normal,these signals,hints,insinuations and flakiness will still be there waiting for you. And the fact that you started an arguement with some girl over the phone, for whatever reason, is just plain juvenile. All you did was just reenforce her not wanting to see you. If she didn't have a reason to not go out with you,well thanks to you, now she does.

 

[sprint]

Didn't you delete her number? Don't be a hypocrite.