Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Getting a job as a bartender at a lounger, tips on getting women and more important

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getting tipped well from people, I got hooked up with a bartending job and i start training this wedns, i wanted to know what are some good ways to become a good bartender at a lounge become well known and most important get crazy tips.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Amazing

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long pour, look it up on video

basically lift bottle a foot in the air as you pour, it makes the stream longer appears as if u pour more.. but u still count 1, 2,3 and end it at an ounce

give away a "free" beer once in awhile if the manager is cool with it - usually after people drank a crap load.

treat older women as if they are 18 - let me see your id young lady.. etc
 

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Don't try flair until you feel comfortable doing so without failing constantly.

I saw so many new bartenders think they could flip a bottle and look cool doing so only to get laughed at continuously.

Friends stop being your friends when you are working. They will try to take advantage of getting free drinks because they know you. Ignore them. They probably won't tip you anyway.

Free drinks are for people who have spent enough money and have tipped you or that you know are good tippers already.

Avoid giving free drinks to women who are flirting with you. Once you give them the first one, they'll expect it the whole night... and trust me, if she wants a free drink, you probably weren't going to get laid by her anyway.

Long pour and perfect pour are your friends. Not only will they impress your boss, but it will impress customers as well. Also, a perfect pour will avoid loading up drinks. You NEVER want to load up a person's drink. This is actually counter-productive. This will only mean that they will spend less and leave less tip, most probably.

Card anyone, specially women. Like Amazing said, I had so many hook-ups just because I asked for an ID.



Learn how to make original drinks and learn how to recommend SOMETHING.
You have no idea how many times I had women come up to me and ask for a Cosmopolitan and I'd say: No, you don't want that Sex in the City crap.

I'd give them something to try that was similar but so much better.

And lots of times, they'll walk up and say: I don't know what to drink.

A savvy bartender impresses more and makes more tips.

And avoid talking about politics/religion.

Make sure you know about sports.
 

PRMoon

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just ask agree with whatever the customer has to say. Don't commit to any of your own ideals, instead ask people what they think about stuff and agree with that. the key to getting tips is to stroke the customers ego as much as possible and make them feel good about stuff. When you've got a regular or two, give them a free drink or shot from time to time and they'll tip you out big time. When I mean free i don't mean steal from the bar i mean you pay the 5 bucks or whatever for the drink too. If you give out free drinks and don't pay for them yourself you're gonna get in trouble. But typically you're giving up 5 bucks for a 20 dollar tip so your net is high.

Bar tending is all socializing and it's really easy since your job is to get people drunk.
 
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