Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Getting a job and phone interviews

bob2007

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I hate these ****en phone interviews. I've had like 4 and not gotten the real interview once. One of them is pending however.

I felt that I wasn't excited enough on the phone and I didn't know whether to speak louder or softer cause I donno how the reception is on the other end. I felt like I was answering a survey, and didn't have the time or preparation to elaborate on the questions.

Anyways, here's the situation, as I said above, I probably didn't come off as great as I would have liked, especially since the position requires speaking on the phone. The position would require me to place stock trades for clients and do some research for their magazine. I have since looked at their website and think its a great position for me and the same type of growth research I've done in the past.

The woman gave me her number to call her in case I wanted to know about the status of call backs - she has said that it'll happen next week. Should I use this opportunity to dispel her concerns about my lack of customer service experience by calling her back and showing some enthusiasm? Or, would you all think that's a little desperate.

BTW I am very desperate for a job, its been 6 months since graduation. I had day trading stock trading job (pure commission) where I made no money, just all the profits charged to expenses.
 
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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bob2007 said:
...Should I use this opportunity to dispel her concerns about my lack of customer service experience by calling her back and showing some enthusiasm? Or, would you all think that's a little desperate.
Right now what's more important, securing your pride or securing a job?
 

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
Right now what's more important, securing your pride or securing a job?
I hear ya, but what I was thinking was not so much my pride, but whether the recruiter would see it as desperate. Or... would she see it as geniune interest? I am leaning on the latter.
 

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As long as you don't beg or try to bribe her you should be alright following up.
 
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Call in and ask. Just be very non-chalant about it. Get the point across that you're interested, but not desperate.

Last thing some HR recruiter lackie wants to do is hire a desperate person. If they perceive that you're desperate, then in their eyes you have no value.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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