Hey guys,
long time reader, first time poster. But i'm a DJ, well certainly closer to one than the average chump
Anyway, my problem is as follows.
Im developing a cynical case of oneitis even though im only out of a LTR of 3 years for 3 months and im having the time of my life. I know i know, not ideal, but read one please
Dont get me wrong ive been seeing other girls, but deep down i can't help but feel she could well be that one. Obviously i dont wish to run into anything, I dont think id be ready for another LTR relationship for a fair while yet but i would like to get some sort of relationship of the ground i guess.
Anyway, basically this girl liked me right before i started into my other relationship, 3 years ago. Shes hot and pretty much a 'nice girl'. After the problems ive been through with a more wild girl, i know for a fact she's the type of girl i want, i regret not hooking up 3 years about but hey who knows we mightnt have gotten anywhere back then. Timing was the only thing that cost us getting together 3 years ago; i was already involved with my eventual gf.
Now 3 years later she's still single, or at least is now. We seen each other occasionally over this time and i told her about my breakup about a week after it happened. A few weeks later im out and i see her. She's a bit drunk and pretty much brings up 3 years ago. I didnt make a move or anything, i guess i respect her too much/dont want to mess things us (usually id go straight ahead but she's different...shes hot but not the type of girl that goes with many guys). She texts me that night saying 'nice seeing you 2nite'
Game on, eh guys? I was so happy.
But since then im not so sure. Ive texted her several times and her messages are quite dull. Rarely does she even ask a question. The only time she's texted me first since was the next day of the night about saying sorry if she was a bit drunk last night. She's admitted to me before she's a bit shy and sometimes lacks confidence, but surely id expect atleast a bit more effort via texts?? I mean, the other girls texting me at the minute are full of banter, but her's are literally boring. If i didnt like her so much id lose interest on that merit alone. Is this just a case of a ****ty texter? I dont remember her for her great texting skills but these are poor. I mean, they arent really bad, somewhere in between- not very encouraging for what i've got in mind
I seen her out last weekend and got a nice response, but then outside, atleast in my mind she was a bit disinterested. Maybe im reading too much into things on that last bit, i cant be sure.
I texted her again the next day and she replied a few times but, yet again was the first person to stop texting, somewhat to my annoyance. Surely if she was interested she'd not always do this? Basically this is the only thing thats giving me negative vibes. She talks about me to my sister and has started waving at my mum lol.
I texted her today because i thought i drove past her, she replies in a decent enough message but again, no questions whatsoever. I had already planned not to reply to her reply, especially not now. Ima wait and see if she texts me maybe this weekend. Im not so confident though.
So guys, whats the gameplan?
Let it run for another while...see how it pans out when i see her out and see if she texts me again? Or do i need to be abit more hands on by keeping texting her say every week to keep a dialogue. Should i be expected to make 70% of the effort? I reckon, if she liked me before then why not now?! Although she's being a bit more of a challenge than id like lol.
Ill say again, shes different than other girls ive worked with. More hard to work out, but i know if i can get her she'd be worth it. I dont think a direct approach right as this minute is the best. Since she's important to me i feel i need to build it up (shes that type of girl imo) to give myself optimum chances of success. If i blow it out of the water now i figure that could be it for good
HELP fellow DJ's
Sorry about the long post but i tried to describe the scene as best as poss.
long time reader, first time poster. But i'm a DJ, well certainly closer to one than the average chump
Anyway, my problem is as follows.
Im developing a cynical case of oneitis even though im only out of a LTR of 3 years for 3 months and im having the time of my life. I know i know, not ideal, but read one please
Dont get me wrong ive been seeing other girls, but deep down i can't help but feel she could well be that one. Obviously i dont wish to run into anything, I dont think id be ready for another LTR relationship for a fair while yet but i would like to get some sort of relationship of the ground i guess.
Anyway, basically this girl liked me right before i started into my other relationship, 3 years ago. Shes hot and pretty much a 'nice girl'. After the problems ive been through with a more wild girl, i know for a fact she's the type of girl i want, i regret not hooking up 3 years about but hey who knows we mightnt have gotten anywhere back then. Timing was the only thing that cost us getting together 3 years ago; i was already involved with my eventual gf.
Now 3 years later she's still single, or at least is now. We seen each other occasionally over this time and i told her about my breakup about a week after it happened. A few weeks later im out and i see her. She's a bit drunk and pretty much brings up 3 years ago. I didnt make a move or anything, i guess i respect her too much/dont want to mess things us (usually id go straight ahead but she's different...shes hot but not the type of girl that goes with many guys). She texts me that night saying 'nice seeing you 2nite'
Game on, eh guys? I was so happy.
But since then im not so sure. Ive texted her several times and her messages are quite dull. Rarely does she even ask a question. The only time she's texted me first since was the next day of the night about saying sorry if she was a bit drunk last night. She's admitted to me before she's a bit shy and sometimes lacks confidence, but surely id expect atleast a bit more effort via texts?? I mean, the other girls texting me at the minute are full of banter, but her's are literally boring. If i didnt like her so much id lose interest on that merit alone. Is this just a case of a ****ty texter? I dont remember her for her great texting skills but these are poor. I mean, they arent really bad, somewhere in between- not very encouraging for what i've got in mind
I seen her out last weekend and got a nice response, but then outside, atleast in my mind she was a bit disinterested. Maybe im reading too much into things on that last bit, i cant be sure.
I texted her again the next day and she replied a few times but, yet again was the first person to stop texting, somewhat to my annoyance. Surely if she was interested she'd not always do this? Basically this is the only thing thats giving me negative vibes. She talks about me to my sister and has started waving at my mum lol.
I texted her today because i thought i drove past her, she replies in a decent enough message but again, no questions whatsoever. I had already planned not to reply to her reply, especially not now. Ima wait and see if she texts me maybe this weekend. Im not so confident though.
So guys, whats the gameplan?
Let it run for another while...see how it pans out when i see her out and see if she texts me again? Or do i need to be abit more hands on by keeping texting her say every week to keep a dialogue. Should i be expected to make 70% of the effort? I reckon, if she liked me before then why not now?! Although she's being a bit more of a challenge than id like lol.
Ill say again, shes different than other girls ive worked with. More hard to work out, but i know if i can get her she'd be worth it. I dont think a direct approach right as this minute is the best. Since she's important to me i feel i need to build it up (shes that type of girl imo) to give myself optimum chances of success. If i blow it out of the water now i figure that could be it for good
HELP fellow DJ's
Sorry about the long post but i tried to describe the scene as best as poss.