"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Getting a girl to dump you

Lexington

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It's been suggested many times before on these forums that if you suddenly adopt AFC behaviors whereas you were previously acting "alpha," it's a sure fire way to get dumped with the classic "it's not you it's me" speech. Has anyone ever tried this and has it worked?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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kingsam

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DJ_Hero said:
Well I suppose your way could be a bit of fun but if she really likes you it might take a while to actually get dumped. Why not just dump her yourself if you wanna break up?
this

altho i would try and find a backup/plate before you actually finish it so you dont accidently get stuck in a rut trying to find new women...
 

TheBucketOfTruth

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Just be a man and break it off if that's what you want. Going the other route is just wrong and there's always the chance that it will backfire and she'll embrace your AFC neediness and your coming on too strong.
 

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This has never worked for me. If a girl has her eyes on you, it's hard to shake her. If you start being needy, they'll eat it up as a sign that you like them. You just can't win in this scenario, and it's a lot more trouble than it's worth. Just break it off with her...you'll be so much happier once you do.
 

Cinamon

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Go on, do it, make her day. Let her think she has tamed you. lol

I'd like to see what happens after that.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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