Getting a girl to be my girlfriend.

[Maeisgood]

How do you ask a girl to be your girlfriend?

Here's some background: there's this girl who basically asked me out at the begining of the summer and I declined. But later on, we still hung out. I even took her on an offical date. We have even kissed, but kissing (and sex for that matter) don't mean very much these days. I think my chances are pretty good. I just don't know what to say. I was thinking about asking her today.

 

[Maeisgood]

I don't think that'd work. She onetime said to me, "No one likes me..." and then her sister called her and was like "You should go out with (me)!" I could hear her sister and I could tell she was embarassed by it. She came to my college to bring me a cake once and when I'm in town we hang out. She even invited me to go to her lake house with her and no other guy. Her mom told her to get me a hug. Her parents really like me too. I think now its all up to me to do something. I don't know what though. The last girl I really liked I waited to long and lost her forever.

 

[MetalFortress]

Eh, I just tell her I'd like her to be my gf. When or at what moment you tell her is up to you.

 

[Maeisgood]

Everyone I ask says "Just ask her." It seems like it should be harder than that.

 

[DJ4Real]

Don't "ask her out". Subtly imply that you are her boyfriend. Do kinoing (not too much), kissing (not too much), and be "her man".

 

[Maeisgood]

I'm going to get her to cut my hair today and then ask when we're getting married because there's an inside joke that we already are. There's a huge party at my college and she's coming. I might use one of those two things, but I'm not sure yet. I'm tired of screwing up with women.

 

[DJ4Real]

On a note: if you decide to do any kissing. 2 kisses max! use them sparingly. Kisses can be powerful! but power can reverse on you and be your worst enemy. Be sure to make her anticipate each kiss that you give her. For example you might start off by turning her face towards you and then lookin to her eyes (passionately), and then all of a sudden start a funny but brief conversation and then stop the convo and do the "kiss test" by touching her hair and seeing how she responds. If she smiles and likes it, you can kiss her, but if she responds with "closed" signals, then no, you have work to do. If you've ever seen "Hitch", "go 90% of the way and then stop and let her come the rest of the way". It's all in how you do it, be sure that you are in somewhere that's kind of private.

I'd recommend doing only one kiss though. (when you drop her off home)

 

[KaminoSS]

i asked this once and i forgot who gave it to me but , Just introduce her as your girlfriend when shes meeting someone she doesnt know and you do.

 

[AC/DC]

Originally posted by KaminoSS
i asked this once and i forgot who gave it to me but , Just introduce her as your girlfriend when shes meeting someone she doesnt know and you do.

This will definitely work.. I like it.

You also could try "Hey, __________(her name), I been thinkin about you a lot recently, and I realized that I like the friendship between us very much, and I'm pretty sure you feel the same way, and I was hopin that maybe we could start gettin a little serious about it."

That's what I would say, and that's all it'll take.

 

[PeterCrouch]

Originally posted by KaminoSS
i asked this once and i forgot who gave it to me but , Just introduce her as your girlfriend when shes meeting someone she doesnt know and you do.

Please dont do that! please please!

a guy did that to a gal in our college class, it was the first she heard about it and next day they had broken up in a relationship that had never actually begun!

they met, they spent a couple of dates with each other, then in class, someone asked him in front of everyone if there going out yet, he said yes, i looked at her, she was shocked, but went along with it for the day, and the next day we started doing the usual take the mick when 2 ppl in your class are going out and we get told there not out anymore

i spoke to her a few days later, and she was like "the first you knew about it was the first i knew about it, weirdest thing ever"

please please dont introduce her as your gf to someone without it actually being official first!

 

[MetalFortress]

Originally posted by PeterCrouch


please please dont introduce her as your gf to someone without it actually being official first!

Cosigned, sealed and delivered to the bank. Your brand new Chevy is coming.

Why the hell would anyone be dumb enough to do that, is what I wonder. If a chick did that with me, I don't care HOW hot or great she is, I'm going to call her on it in front of EVERYONE. Yeah, I'm an ass, but it's fun that way.

 

[comic_relief]

KimonoSS's idea

i used it and it worked. It matters a lot on the person and how confidently you do it. I did mine very confidently and it worked.

Sometimes it won't work but sometimes it does. I knew where my relationship was headed so I didn't have a problem with it.

It just matters with how you say it, how far in the relationship it is, who she is personally, and many other variables.

Be wary of this move though.

 

[Maeisgood]

1) I didn't get her to cut my hair because I didn't have much time that day and then I had to leave for college again.

Her birthday is coming up this weekend and I'm coming home for Fall Break. I still want to ask her out and the fact that its her birthday may complicate things for me.

The only friend I have I completely trust said to ask her out for lunch and he insists on just talking to her. It's what worked on him, but seems wussy to me. Other people say ask her to be my girlfriend. That seems wussy though. I'm wondering if it actually works, and what to say. A lot of times, I hear different advice. A lot of relationships seem to start out by chance. Most DJ people say to just treat her like a girlfriend and over time she'll become it. I did that all summer. But I don't have time. I'll be able to visit on weekends.

2) On a different topic, I've noticed a pattern to my encounters with women.

1. They like me, but I don't like them yet. 2. I start to like them, hang out with them, don't know what to say and I can't get them alone. 3. They then stop liking me, but their parents do.

I'm guessing they lose interest after I prove that I am not a real man by asking them out. I've taken her on a real offical "date" before but I don't know how to get her to be my girlfriend. Please god someone tell me so I don't screw up a fourth time!!!

The first two times I screwed up it was with two boob-endowed blondes. The third time it was with the homecoming queen (I was prom king). This fourth girl is a model and might become a cheer leader for a local team. I really don't want to screw up again. Thanks everyone.

 

[Docs]

"Just ask her"

Better then any longshot ideas here.

 

[DJ4Real]

Doc, that's your opinion. One question, do you know anything about being mysterious and/or holding the mystery?

 

[Maeisgood]

Other guys call her, but she generally comes up with excuses to not hang out them. She said her parents got me a Christmas present already. Her sister wants her to go out with me. I've kissed her twice before. We've been on an "official date" before. We joke about being married. It seems to me that we should be going out now, but I'm still not 100% sure yet.

As far as introducing her as my girlfriend goes, that doesn't seem to always work.

Could someone give me the exact wording they used on their girlfriends (or something close)? That's what I need to read.