Getting a gf without friends

[chellikwaja]

There's a girl in one of my classes that I know finds me attractive. We've only had a couple small conversations and I'd really like to go for it for once in my life. She seems a little bit introverted but not much. I'm 21, never had a girlfriend before and don't really have any friends anymore that I do anything with except for my roommate and he's got a girlfriend that he's always doing stuff with.

I'm worried that this girl would lose interest once she finds out that I have no life essentially. I want to change and become more sociable but I have an incredibly hard time making friends outside of class. I'm decent when it comes to joking around with classmates but once I get outside of class I turn boring.

So my question is, do girls lose interest once they find out how low your social status is?

 

[MisterMcGee]

haha well you should want to have friends either way, dont kid yourself we all like hanging out with people. its likely youre doing what i find myself doing sometimes - youre being socially lazy

 

[chellikwaja]

Yeah, that's what one of two goals I have started working on Making friends and working out. But I didn't know if I should just wait to get some good friends before I tried to get a girlfriend or do it now.

 

[Captain]

You may as well get her now. It can help you to be more sociable. Work on making friends and having a bigger social circle, in the mean time, don't let her know your exact circumstances.

 

[r0cky]

You just met this girl and you're already thinking about making her your gf?
You've got a lot to work on dude.
Getting a gf is a lot like stock trading, A good trader does not go into a trade expecting to make profits, but expecting to keep his capital.
You can not initiate an interaction with a girl expecting a relationship. Because your behavior will reflect your intentions, which will surely chase her away.
Lastly, have some purpose in your internal questions. Replace the 'yes or no' questions with 'how to' questions.
Dont ask "do girls lose interest once they find out how low your social status is?" This has a pretty obvious answer.
Ask yourself "HOW can I have more social value?"

 

[mothballs]

Well... social status really isn't that important on the first few dates... you'll be with her and only her for the most part, so as long as you have some good activities planned it really won't matter. If you have stories to tell or interesting hobbies that's something to show her you're not actually boring. You are being socially lazy as someone pointed out, but that's only a temporary situation. I say go for it.

 

[Warrior74]

he who hesitates....

fock having friends, I'm grown. I live in different city, I know a few people but have very few friends. Grown women don't really care as much...people move away, get married, die, etc. They are more concerned with how they feel when they are with me than how many friends I have. Focus on how you make her feel.

Also go meet 10 other women just avoid the afc oneitis. Good luck.

 

[goodfoot]

I don't even let girls I just started dating near my friends. I don't like having girls I next so entrenched in my social circles that I have to keep seeing them.