Getting a date with this weird flakey chick

[DoUbL3A]

So there's this girl I met roughly 5 months ago before I left the country to study abroad. The short time we spent together was nice and we just clicked. We kissed twice but that was it. Anyway, before I left this girl gave me her number because she wanted to stay in touch. While I was away, I called her probably once a month, if that. The conversations were lighthearted and brief and every time we spoke she mentioned how she can't wait for me to come home so that we can meet up. So the day finally comes where I arrive home. I call her and we set something up. The day of the plans comes, I texted her to confirm, no response and I didn't continue trying to contact her after that text so the plans never happened. A few days later I messaged her as if nothing happened. She called me, didn't say anything about the plans not happening and I didn't ask. I just kept the conversation brief and lighthearted like usual. Then she initiates plans for the near future. This time the day of the plans came, and she said she couldn't chill bc she was sick. I responded by saying "ahh, well i hope you don't have explosive diarreha!" And after i sent that message she called me immediately, I didn't answer, then she called again and again, I didn't answer then she texted saying well maybe we can hang out like right now. Like an hr later I messaged her saying I made other plans bc you said you were sick, but well meet up another time.

So this girl keeps calling me and initiating plans, then when the day comes I don't hear from her. I haven't reacted to her flakiness and inconsideration, but on the inside its really pissing me off. She tried calling me last night, but I didn't respond because I don't even know if this chick is worth pursuing anymore. But at the same time, I am drawn to her somehow and I guess thats what brings me here.

I don't really know how to handle this girl. Never really dealt with a girl who had low interest level but kept initiating plans. But then this girl flakes on her own set up plans. Its not like she gets a reaction out of me. I don't really talk to her in between the plans being set up so I don't really understand why her behavior is the way it is.

 

[bukowski_merit]

Low interest + crazy girl + guy willing to put up with crazy girl with low interest = this situation.

Solution: Ignore her. Stop texting and calling.

If you want an alternative to ending it completely - do not have conversations with her. Everytime she messages you to hangout - pitch an instadate... If she declines or makes an excuse - ignore her.... If she returns some time later - do it again.... Until she either leaves you alone; you get tired of her nonsense; or she finally gives you an instadate.... This has worked for me 2-3 times in my life, and is not the route I'd push.... But it can occasionally work....

 

[djthiago1]

I didn't even read your post bro. Flake = Not interested. Move on.

 

[nismo-4]

She has low interest and you care too much. It's a lost cause.

If she was interested, she'd be rearranging the earth's orbit to see you.

Case closed. Move on unless you like being her orbiter.

 

[Meisterman]

Flakey girls = Low interest/Attention who*es. HOWEVER, from the way you wrote it she only flaked twice it sounds like. I'll go against the grain here and say give her ONE MORE chance since she has given counter offers to hang out when she flaked.

But it has to be something like you invite her over for a "movie night" i.e. Something you can sexually escalate easily. If you do give her another chance, you need to fvck her the next time you see her. No exceptions. And if she flakes again or doesn't let you escalate, you next her immediately.