"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Getting a date for homecoming......

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Okay, my school's homecoming dance is next saturday. I really want to go, but i don't have a date..... I really want to ask this one girl, but I don't know how. I want to go w/ her as friends. I have a confidence problem in this area. It's not something i can fake like public speaking. I'm a good public speaker, but i can never seem to ask a girl out. rejection is probably my biggest fear, and I don't know what to do about it. I realllly, as I said, want to go to homecoming, but I'm not going if i don't have a date. Only one of my friends is going, and he has a date. Advice from those of you that have experience on this situation will be appreciated.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Dude 243 posts and i get the impression you haven't even looked at the bible?

Read it.

Confidence isn't something that anyone can give you. They may be able to boost it for a little while, but its a sham. You have to find it deep within yourself and bring it to the surface.

What is going to happen if you get rejected? Is she gonna yell in a crowded room "I don't want to go homecoming with you Jokerlsk!!! GET AWAY FROM ME!!!"

No she will probably put you down nicely. She may tell her close friends, but it will be a good thing. I have never felt any disrespect to any of my friends who got rejected by a girl it made me respect them more. In fact the more unconfident the person and the hotter the girl that they go after has made me say to myself on several occasions, "wow this guy has balls."

I have even thought this about a AFC move. My friend asked a girl out by giving her a bear-from build a bear and telling her he thought she was the most gorgeous girl in the world. it was a dumb move, but the courage that needed to be mustered for him to do something like that was a lot so i respect him for it. He just doesn't know how to play the game

Ask her now. She may be getting a date as you read this very post. Move it, relax, dont think about it and i am sure it will all work out.
 
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Jokerlsk

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Alright, i'm gonna ask tomorrow. I'm sick of being a pansy
 
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Don't get over-zealous though. Its great to be gung-ho and good-to-go, but try not to think TOO much.
 
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Oh, I'm not. I'm going to talk to her before class starts, bring up homecoming, and ask if she wants to go w/ me. Sound like a plan?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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