gettin the number is as far as i get??? help

[sportf190]

hey guys i dont understnad this is like the 1000th girl this has happened to.. i have no problem getting the phone number but then it just seems like we never hang out an example is with my last girl got her number.. called her that night talked then she told me to call her at 1 the next day called her at 3 left a voice mail and still havent heard from her... i knew she worked from 4-8 that day but still i dont wanan call back and look desperate and if she is interested which she was cuz her friend told me then why wont she call back??.. why cant i ever seem to get girls to hang out wit me after i get there number??

 

[Chemistry]

Fact is that some girls are just flakes... but go and rent yourself out the movie, "Boiler Room" and pay close attention to the part where they discuss the sales calls and product info packs not resulting in actual sales when a broker calls back a week or two later... customers say yes to the initial stage when there is no commitment required, but as soon as there is some kind of commitment required they don't go for it...

All your work is done in that initial meeting... you build a rapport and communicate effectively with her so that there's nothing on her mind but that phone call... then, when you make that follow-up phone call, it's easy... but do leave it a couple of days maan, seriously

 

[IamtheAlphamale]

K basically, don't worry about stuff like this. Basically heres what your doing. Your concentrating on one girl and your letting her dictate things. Basically the approach I started to take is each girl is practice until one proves shes more and even at that point she should still be the one who is trying for you. I realize it is hard to wait a while to call a girl when you like her but to be honest don't let your life be dictated by all these rules. These guys will tell you a scientific analysis of why you failed and all this. Basically true results will come through massive self improvement goto bars and play the rejection game. Take a while and don't take the girls seriously. Say ok for the next 8 months I will be the man I want to be and after 8 months depending if any girl can take my attention from the masses I may give her a chance. Success comes through failure, your on your way. I could tell you things to do but **** the rules just take your mind off one girl. Multi number. **** working in the group work outside the group. **** networking try the hard stuff. Just keep pluggin away. Oh btw your too interested. Thats your failing

 

[Pimp-sicle]

Fact is that some girls are just flakes... but go and rent yourself out the movie, "Boiler Room" and pay close attention to the part where they discuss the sales calls and product info packs not resulting in actual sales when a broker calls back a week or two later... customers say yes to the initial stage when there is no commitment required, but as soon as there is some kind of commitment required they don't go for it...

All your work is done in that initial meeting... you build a rapport and communicate effectively with her so that there's nothing on her mind but that phone call... then, when you make that follow-up phone call, it's easy... but do leave it a couple of days maan, seriously

Bingo! Great post BTW. Couldn't have said it any better.




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[sportf190]

yah but i dotn want a girlfriend lol all i want is some action when i hang out.. it always seems the girls think im good lookin but for somer reason it is hard to get them to hang out..

 

[Pimp-sicle]

yah but i dotn want a girlfriend lol all i want is some action when i hang out.. it always seems the girls think im good lookin but for somer reason it is hard to get them to hang out..

It doesn't make a difference if you want some action or a serious gf, your problem lies in your initial approach. Your not creating attraction, emotion or excitement within the girl. You need to approach more frequently and stop putting so much pressure on yourself. Lots of guys forget that this is suppose to be fun, not tedious work.

Your situation actually reminds me of my buddy. He's insecure, a little defensive based on things he's went through and dead @ss boring when he converses with a girl. However when he's around all his friends, he's fun, witty and outgoing. For some reason he changes his tune around a girl he's attracted to and because of it, he doesn't have much success.




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[lookyoung]

Listen I must have preached this 1000 times. Don't get a # just to get it. Develop rapport with girl.

1. Have something in common with her. Talk about school, parties, friends anything to develop RAPPORT.

2. If in the right setting, go for a kiss close, try to develop some kino, hug, arm around waist etc........



As far as waiting to call the girl I don't buy into that theory. If a girl likes you than she likes you. The girl is not going to say. Since he called me too soon I am not going to go out with him. Just don't call her too much after initial call.

As far as flaking goes that is part of the game. If every guy that got flaked on dropped dead. Then every single one of us would die.



REMEMBER DEVELOP RAPPORT. LESS LIKELY TO FLAKE.

 

[sportf190]

yah i know all that kino is real important problem was we were in my waitoring job and most these girls i get as customers and its hard to try all that... just getting a girls number does not do anything i do have to start building up attration before it