Gettin Shut Down On The Phone

[EBickford]

hey guys, could use some help. I seem to keep running into the same problem.

I get numbers, but when i hit them up a few days later, mostly texting, i get shut down.

example:
saturday night i met the fine chick about a 9.5 at a party, chick was all over me, if the situation was a bit different(****blocking/lots of people at party), i know i oculd have banged her. anyway.....

get her digits, texted her today, and the chick shot me down. I chatted her a bit, flirted, busted her balls a bit, then offered to chill tomorrow, and she said she was busy. later on i asked when she was free, and she baiscally blew me off.

any advice? this is bs, she had all the buying signs. maybe im coming off as too ****y?

 

[Weezy]

Wait 3 days, this will let her WONDER IF you are going to call, By the time you do call she has thought about you for 3 days on and off, she now cares if you call cause she thinks maybe she's not good enough for you.. Then when you do call make it quick, say you wanna take her out (bowling is so sick for kino)

Don't just text her the next day, you lose your frame the minute you do that and look like every other weak pathetic chump.

 

[EBickford]

ok, another question that i think helps my problem.


is ****y+funny a bad idea when texting?

 

[window]

I'd say alcohol plays a factor...

 

[Weezy]

It really depends.

My personal style is not to text a lot.

I don't text a lot until she starts texting me. The thing with texting is sometimes it's hard to tell when your joking and when your serious.

I can close around 4/5 girls by simply getting her digits on the weekend, waiting 3-8 days before I call, then taking her to dinner and bowling on a weekday.

But if the girl is cool and gets jokes and she starts texting you.. Go CF all day long as long as your not smothering her with txts.

 

[EBickford]

well this chick was all over me, closed it no problem. started texting her, lots of c+f, which i think made her think i was an arrogant prick, cuz she couldnt hear my tone of voice, or tell i was teasin.

and this has happened with like 4 chicks. honestly, my phone game is killing me.

 

[slaog]

ok, another question that i think helps my problem.


is ****y+funny a bad idea when texting?

Too much C&F is a bad thing IMO. Too much of anything is a bad thing. I find people like that to be annoying after a while and not genuine.


Most communication is done through body language. Little is done through words especially when out socialising. People are then getting a feel (not literally) for each other.


If you're body language is not congruent with your words then they'll know its not the real you the words are coming from. They'll feel theres something not right and feel that you're trying to impress them. You only try to impress women when you see them as the prize so although you're being C&F, at the same time you are putting them on a pedestal. Naturally this sets off warning signals in women and they'll get turned off.


So the try working on your total communication. Think of yourself as the prize, have a high value mindset and keep improving.

 

[EBickford]

well i got strong game in person, its when i text that kills me. like my c+f is just overkill, and/or it doesnt work over texting. so all the momentum i build up with chicks is somehow killed.

 

[Vice]

The thing with texting is sometimes it's hard to tell when your joking and when your serious.

QFT.

This is gold guys; this is partly why I've been screwing up lately.

Damn texts lol

 

[ThatMysteriousGuy]

hey guys, could use some help. I seem to keep running into the same problem.

I get numbers, but when i hit them up a few days later, mostly texting, i get shut down.

example:
saturday night i met the fine chick about a 9.5 at a party, chick was all over me, if the situation was a bit different(****blocking/lots of people at party), i know i oculd have banged her. anyway.....

get her digits, texted her today, and the chick shot me down. I chatted her a bit, flirted, busted her balls a bit, then offered to chill tomorrow, and she said she was busy. later on i asked when she was free, and she baiscally blew me off.

any advice? this is bs, she had all the buying signs. maybe im coming off as too ****y?

Texting sucks. Communication breaks down when you text and it's effortless for the woman.

Guys who don't text are getting all the punani.

Really, that's why everyone who is alone tonight is alone. They're texting.

And, when the girl stops texting at 1am it's because a guy who doesn't text showed up and is rocking her world.

 

[Vice]

Texting sucks. Communication breaks down when you text and it's effortless for the woman.

Guys who don't text are getting all the punani.

Really, that's why everyone who is alone tonight is alone. They're texting.

And, when the girl stops texting at 1am it's because a guy who doesn't text showed up and is rocking her world.

Damn it, I want to strangle you and shake your hand at the same time for writing that.

My father controls my phone plan, and I told him a week or two ago to disable my texting service so I can save money, as well as not be so available. Plus it won't give me the opportunity to screw up, and I won't waste any time/brainpower thinking of what the hell to write.

 

[EBickford]

so texting altogether is the problem?

 

[ThatMysteriousGuy]

Damn it, I want to strangle you and shake your hand at the same time for writing that.

My father controls my phone plan, and I told him a week or two ago to disable my texting service so I can save money, as well as not be so available. Plus it won't give me the opportunity to screw up, and I won't waste any time/brainpower thinking of what the hell to write.

It's completely true.

I shut off voicemail on my Sprint plan years ago (took a lot of convincing the sprint person I was serious) and I have the volume shut off for texts so I just pretend I don't have it unless I text "dude, GRAB SOME FRIGGIN BEER BEFORE IT'S TOO LATE" guy texts.

Texting puts you on an instant electronic leash with a girl...she knows you have your phone with you and see her communications instantly. It gives her complete power over "conversations".

It's the most sissyfying mangirlish thing ever invented and people most often pay extra for that priviledge.

I was serious about the guys getting all the punani, they aren't texting, they're sexting. Really, this is my serious face.

(yes, there are some who usefully use text, but they're also mostly the DJs who are just rolling through bootycalls and not trying to "get the girl" at all, just tap some ass)

 

[Vice]

I'm starting to believe that I'm better off personally without texting.

Here's my personal reasons:

1. I save money on my plans
2. I save time by not standing around with a little piece of plastic in my hand trying to punch out a few words that could be spoken in a fraction of the time
3. It doesn't make me easily available, which is attractive
4. I won't have the opportunity to write something stupid
5. If I tell a woman that I don't text because it's a waste of time, that will be me setting my frame of reality in a strong way, because there's nothing that she can do about it.

Do whatever you want, but these are my personal reasons. I've NEVER had ANYTHING good come from texting now that I think about it.

 

[EBickford]

well it looks like i gotta relearn setting up day twos from the ground up. any suggestions on reading material?

 

[Vice]

well it looks like i gotta relearn setting up day twos from the ground up. any suggestions on reading material?

DJ Bible has the answers, surprisingly enough. I just checked because I have a similar problem, and I'm confident that I've fixed it.

 

[horaholic]

http://www.rsdnation.com/brad/blog/texting-helping-guys-get-laid-1993
http://www.rsdnation.com/node/60168
http://www.rsdnation.com/node/84921

These articles here are everything you need to know about phone, and text game. I totally disagree with waiting several days to call a chick if you just met her. If you just met, she has ZERO investment in you. She probably gave her number to several guys the same night. You need to be on top of it. If its a chick you already know, that you think already likes you, THEN, wait a few days to call. Read these articles, it'll explain it better.

 

[Vice]

I'm racking my brains here now about texting, this is horrible.

I need some sleep, thanks for the links

 

[ThatMysteriousGuy]

I'm racking my brains here now about texting, this is horrible.

I need some sleep, thanks for the links

Don't rack your brains.

Although texting works for a few who already have "game" down pat, texting is much like "make money fast from your own home" & instant penis enlargement advertisements. ie: "with almost no effort you can get what you want" but girls aren't strongly attracted to guys they can get with only the effort it takes to punch a few keys. It means 100x less compared to a brave guy who calls and says he's coming over without asking her if it's ok. (She can refuse, and he'll be like "meh", but he's "assuming" the sale instead of typing lots of stuff to get a chance to be alone with her)

That gets girls hot. A man of action and in her presence, not a guy who's alone, (or had nothing better to do) at home texting her.

 

[tebow1120]

I swear I wish I could take some of you guys with me 24/7.You guys be telling the truth man.This girl I talk to I just realized only text me when she dont have nothing better to do and everytime she text me she is like call me and my dumbass calls everytime.