gettin physical?

[happyhourhero]

Hey folks, i have a serious issue here. I've been working on my game for about 2 years now after first visiting this site and others and then this summer i didn't focus on getting numbers or dates or anything just worked on my life and my confidence. So, i come back to school this year and chicks are hanging on me like crazy. Problem is i haven't kissed a girl in a little under 4 years since high school. And i have had girls where we went on 3 dates and i totally p**sed out and didn't make a move and the relationship faded.

So, making the first move and kissing a girl scares me shatless. I know i have blown many opportunities to make the move so i am wondering how you go about it so it is not akward, how do i get over my anxiety of making the move, and what to do if she denies the kiss

I appreciate anyones comments as this is my roadblock right now

 

[italostud]

If she denies your kiss, ask her to open her mouth really wide. Hawk a big loogie in there and run.

 

[happyhourhero]

funny but no help

 

[Kodiac]

Where do you go on dates ?
Do you ever get them somewhere private - ie couch at home ?
Do you apply Kino ?

Best way to go about it, make a joke, sustain eye contact - make it deep, give her the "i want u" look, move in for the kiss.

Dont make a big deal about it...dont talk about it - ie NO, im going to kiss you now, or any compliments etc.. just KISS HER. When you kiss, rub the back her neck, they love it.

If she denies the kiss ? Smile, back off...keep going with the date etc, possibly try again later or NEXT.

Its not a big thing, dont make into one. Kiss her when you want too, JUST DO IT!

 

[1hepcat]

OK, don't worry about your past issues. Of course you're going to be a little nervous. Who wouldn't be? But when you're ready to do it and you're still nervous, you have to think for a second... "where are my balls? OK, yup, they're still down there. Good. I've got balls! So this is easy!"

Kodiac is absolutely right, don't make a big deal out of it. AND DON'T mention it before you go for it. It will make you look like a big wimp. Remember, she wants you to do this. Look into her eyes. Smile. NOT one of those "oh I'm sooooo happy to be here... I really hope you let me kiss you. oh g** you're gorgeous... I think I'm gonna cream my jeans" smiles, but instead an "I AM THE MAN, and I'm happy to do this for you. " smile. Go for it!

 

[ChesterB]

Yeah, listen to 1hepcat!

Kissing her is _absolutely_ the right thing to do!

Be happy, be confident. Your kissing will be good!

 

[E-Z Rider]

Like Kodiac was saying, the place of your date can ease the move-making fear a lot.

If you go to a dinner and a movie, it's hard to get any kino at all, plus the only real oppurtinty to kiss her would be the typical "doorstep" kiss at the end, where she's expecting it and she knows it, and you know she knows...so there's all kinds of nervousness. -Plus, that date is pretty boring.

I'd say, instead of that date, just call her up and say, "Hey, I just got this new DVD, I want you to come watch it with me tonight".

Then you can go watch it at your house. She won't know for sure what you're going to be doing. The opportunities for kino are endless (if it's a scary movie, her grabbing you for protection when somebody get's axed or whatever). Slowly but surely increase the kino till you've got your arm around her, then start playing with her hair. I dunno if you've ever had a chick play with your hair or not, but it does something to you. I think that effect is magnified with a chick.

**If she let's you get this far, you're in**

If she distances herself a little while you're stepping up the kino, back off a little and then slowly try again.

Ok...back to playing with her hair.

At this point, just kind of look at her. She'll look at you back. Then slowly, surely move in for the kiss.


It's relatively simple.

And i think that's the perfect date. I think if I could get any girl in that situation, I'd have a good chance of scoring a kiss. The whole situation (you two alone in your house, light's off, on a couch, movie playing) puts them in the mood. It's easy to take their guard down.

That's my 2 cent. Good luck- E-Z

 

[happyhourhero]

Thanks everyone, that was very helpful E-Z rider

 

[ChesterB]

I did exactly what E-Z Rider wrote, with this chick. It was our second date.
I put my arm around her some minutes after the film started, touched her here and there and played a bit with her hair.
It all seemed to be OK for her.
When the movie was over she didn't look long enough at me to kiss her, so I tried to move her head with my hand, but she said "No".
On the other hand she seemed to be quite interested in me, for example she always asked "When will we see each other again?" when we parted (on the party we got to know each other and after our first date).

What's up with this chick?

 

[ChesterB]

I have to add one fact: She was really tired that day, so maybe that's a reason.

Does anyone have a better idea?

BTW, I didn't call her since (Saturday), I'm going to call her next Sunday earliest, since she doesn't have any time the weekend.