"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Gettin her # through Chat...[2nd Time]!

MaxPayne

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here is the deal i've been talkin 2 this gurl dat i met through Myspace 3 or 4 months ago.....nd i've already i asked her for her number about a month ago or sumthin ....nd she said she will give it to me in a concert that was being held in our city!......but the Concert comes nd i dont see her there ....i think she didnt go.......but anyway yesterday we were chatting and havin sooo much FUN!...nd this happened b4 she leaves:

Her: ..........[joke that i am older than her by 3 months]
Her: anyways hunn
Her: im too tireddd
Her:goinn to sleepp
Her:ttyl mwah xx <3
Me: heheh! [for that joke ]
Me: okay!
Her: take care hun xxx
Me: hey lsn !
Me: Ooi b4 u go !
Her: yea?
Me: wats ur number?
Her: 911
Her: :p
Me: :rolleyes:
Me: yah mine is 112 !
Me: :p
Me: yah seriously wats ur cell # ?
Her: 911
Her: :p

.......and she goes offline!


now do i ask her again the next time we talk? do i start chatting with her next time? or should ignore her till she starts talkin?.....:trouble: btw i don wanna go out with her ...but she has alot of HOT friends!!...i could benefit from that!


thnx for any replys give!
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Vice

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I just cringed from reading that. She's gone stale. What she did by telling you she'd give it to you at a concert is blow you off, she could have given it to you right there. She does not think much of you.

Next time, you need to build a little more rapport with her.

I prefer saying "Hey, let me give you a call some time, what's your phone number?"

Next.

By the way, stop using Instant Messaging, the ability for a girl to know where you are and what you're doing isn't good, it makes you more predicatable. Stick to myspace messages and the phone. But no texting.
 

tsmith2334

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Vice said:
By the way, stop using Instant Messaging, the ability for a girl to know where you are and what you're doing isn't good, it makes you more predicatable. Stick to myspace messages and the phone. But no texting.
That's only if you let it tell her that. Your away message/ profile could have anything in it. You can make it as telling or mysterious as you like.

I instant message girls every now and then, I don't overdo it though. If I'm interested in a girl, I might IM her once every two weeks... if that. Who knows, they might even initiate contact with you.

Anyway, you asked her for her number and basically got rejected. Doesn't seem like she's feeling you. I wouldn't keep talking to her on a regular basis, but I'm not the type to next a girl so fast either. Maybe keep her around, ask for a number again in a couple weeks and see if she's more receptive.
 

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Thnx for all the tips guys ...but i already said that i am not that intrested in goin out with her!...she just happens to know many hot gurls !...could have been for my benefit!....


ohh nd btw she did initiate contact with me[bout my PM] ...askin me if i saw a Celebrity in a mall ??.........i ignored her ....she kept askin ...finally i answered nd said yes i did!..........she started askin which day n wat time!.....FINALLY turns out we both were at the mall the SAME TIME!...SAME DAY!...SAW the CELEB!...but didn see each otha !........


thats when i busted her balls bout it ...that she must gimme her number!....but she kept goin back and forth the SAME SNEAKY attitude;p ...

in the end she said : BRB!
i wait 2 mins then say: wat did u go 2 call ur gf...2 ask her if u should give ur # 2 me! ;p

i wait around 5 mins then say: hey u know wat forget it!
i don even want it anymore!

after 10 mins she replys: yes i did asked her {her gf^}
:p
SHE NUDGES ME!....{i keep ignoring}
she goes like : are u mad?

i also ignore!.....nd we havin talked since THEN !





thnk u for reading!:p..........any DJ comments will be appreciated!
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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