squirrels
Master Don Juan
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...not a new tip, but something I realized. When I was constantly meeting, dating, and sexing new women, I always had a "perspective" on any one girl.
It let me compare and contrast their virtues and vices. It helped me explain one's behavior using the others as a frame of refrence. It helps you UNDERSTAND women.
And most importantly, it not only allows you to screen out women that AREN'T worth your time, it allows you to really APPRECIATE those who ARE.
It's ESPECIALLY helpful to people who tend to get attached or desperate too soon because you always have alternatives ready-to-go and don't need to worry so much about any one girl.
If you only have one girl you're seeing or have your mind set on, then it puts the focus on HER. You end up committed and suddenly YOU aren't the prize SHE needs to compete for. She's your only current option. You accept her flaws, you disregard her virtues, you start to worry about losing her, you start to rush toward commitment, get nervous, spend nights awake, etc, because you think to yourself, "WHERE ELSE AM I GONNA GO??"
When you have multiple options, it lets you slow down and observe the playing field and make a move into a committed relationship when YOU are ready. It also makes HER the one who has to compete for YOU because, despite the fact that she may be your favorite, you still have the option of going elsewhere. And the games are less likely to affect you because unless all your chicks are playing the same crap with you at once, you have a frame-of-reference to judge any action she makes.
So as long as you're not "committed", continue to at least MEET and flirt with other women. Get a feel for the female gender as a whole and you'll find any ONE woman easier to understand and deal with.
It let me compare and contrast their virtues and vices. It helped me explain one's behavior using the others as a frame of refrence. It helps you UNDERSTAND women.
And most importantly, it not only allows you to screen out women that AREN'T worth your time, it allows you to really APPRECIATE those who ARE.
It's ESPECIALLY helpful to people who tend to get attached or desperate too soon because you always have alternatives ready-to-go and don't need to worry so much about any one girl.
If you only have one girl you're seeing or have your mind set on, then it puts the focus on HER. You end up committed and suddenly YOU aren't the prize SHE needs to compete for. She's your only current option. You accept her flaws, you disregard her virtues, you start to worry about losing her, you start to rush toward commitment, get nervous, spend nights awake, etc, because you think to yourself, "WHERE ELSE AM I GONNA GO??"
When you have multiple options, it lets you slow down and observe the playing field and make a move into a committed relationship when YOU are ready. It also makes HER the one who has to compete for YOU because, despite the fact that she may be your favorite, you still have the option of going elsewhere. And the games are less likely to affect you because unless all your chicks are playing the same crap with you at once, you have a frame-of-reference to judge any action she makes.
So as long as you're not "committed", continue to at least MEET and flirt with other women. Get a feel for the female gender as a whole and you'll find any ONE woman easier to understand and deal with.