"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Get Rid of the Anything Else Forum

trickynick

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Just a thought. I know this idea is likely not to be too widely accepted by the current member base of this forum, however now that I look back on my time here I can't think of anything momumental ever going on that forum but I can think of example after example of it being a conduit of negativity like Allen described the chat room to be.

Some of the topics discussed in Anything Else are very subjective and many people have strong opinions on them such as politics, religion, pro sports, etc. These discussions create more opportunities for DJ's to alienate each other rather than form healthy bonds and they should be discussed through some other medium other than this message board.

The frequency of spamming, flaming and trolling, and a host of other disturbances that detract from the quality of this site is also very high in that forum. Right now there is a topic in which a poster who was enough of an annoyance to this board to have been banned from it twice has now become the inspiration of a 50+ reply debate about him that is now causing personal attacks to be exchanged. One of the most poorly thought of people ever to grace this forum with a post has now effectively become one of the most powerful figures because of the way he has made certain people on this board behave. Although sarastic, there is ironic truth in that topic's title, "Da Man of the Board is Here" and it is sad.

I understand, Allen that people who have become accostumed to there being an Anything Else forum will not be happy with this idea should you chose to implement it, but the new members in the future will enjoy more on-topic focus and less negative static.

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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Getting rid of the AE forum is not really an option (it's the 2nd most popular forum here). But we may need to add some more mods to try to keep things from getting out of hand and spilling over into the other forums.
 
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