"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Get in the Zone and Stay There

trickynick

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When do you really feel the best about your ability as a DJ? I am sure all of us would answer this question differently. I would say it's when I know that I have many irons in the fire and I have plenty of options available to me for women to pursue, date, or sleep with (and not necessarily in that order).

This is why pursuing only one woman is worse for your sex life than pursuing none at all. Under these conditions, all your bets are hedged up in one horse. What fallback position do you have? This makes you particularly vulnerable to AFC mentality and behaviors. Because you don't have any other women to direct your energy towards, you will appear desparate. The reason you would appear this way would be because in actuality you would be desparate.

AFC behaviors are self-perpetuating. The minute you open the door to chump behavior you are on a slippery slope. Kill those chump thoughts before you act on them. You either own these tendencies or they own you. By the same token, success is also self-perpetuating. The more success you have, the more you will be used to success and come to expect it from yourself.

We always tell each other, be confident, be a chellenge, don't be too available. The keyword here is "be", not act like or pretend to be. It is so much easier to make the right calls with women when you actually are the person you are trying to act like and not just pretending to be.

Be that guy who never worries about one woman because he has so many others. Be the guy who cares so litte about rejection he laughs at it. Be that DJ who is on 24-7 and does not let opportunities slide by. Be that guy who turns up new prospects quickly and stays focused on his desired outcome without tying it to any particular woman. Don't just dream it, make up your mind to be it.

When you get a consecutive string of what you consider to be good DJ actions behind you, pay attention to how it all makes you feel. Great isn't it. Figure out how you got into this "on fire" mindset in the first place and do whatever it takes to stay in that mindset.

Be in the Zone for real and don't let yourself out of it!
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Here, here! Once you let one AFC behavior out, you start to follow it up with additional AFC behaviors... pretty soon, there you are, AFC and alone.
 

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T R I A G U L A T E
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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that's t-r-i-a-N-g-u-l-a-t-e.

The opposite of one-itis. Have several chycks going and don't latch on to just one of them.

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Bro's rule, grrrls drool!
 

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trickynick said:
pursuing only one woman is worse for your sex life than pursuing none at all.

This is actually pretty profound. I like it, it should be a bumber sticker.

There is a lot of truth to it.
 

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pursuing only one women is worse for your sex life than pursuing none at all. I like that statement.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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haha... trickynicky was the man back in tha day. I used to fued with him all the time back in the early 2000's. seriously (new user acct)
 
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