Get her attention back?

[metamorphose]

So I find myself once again in a situation soley due to my lack of game or anything that resembles it. I would appriciate and help or advice availible as this is getting pathetic.

4 college girls rented the house beside mine. All of them are in relationships except for one, who also is by far the most attractive. They are all 22-23. I was strictly on a small talk relationship with all of them and never ever wanted more, as I figured I had no chance. Then I found this site, but assumed they had already written me off as an AFC.

Somehow the cute single one was not only into me, but aggresively pursueing. Her comments made it obvious she has been watching me for a while, from the gym to out and about. She began to approach me in bars flirty, walk home drunk with me to my place to hang out. Complement me reguarily on my looks. Reply to any text I'd send instantly, go any where I'd suggest, and any thing I said was funny.

But the month all this was going on, I was dealing with some serious family health problems back home, and was just not in that zone where I even cared. I was friendly, flirty, but never made a move. I was in those bars to get drunk, not pick up girls.

Now I'm over that and back to normal, and attracted to her. But while still super friendly etc, the way she acts around me is different, and even someone as clueless as me can pick up on either she has moved onto some other guy, or just assumed my inaction as no interest so has stopped trying.

I asked her to hang out once, and she had plans, but legitimate as I saw some event she was going to on facebook. She apologized quite a bit for being busy, but also did not counter an offer of a different day.

Since then (couple weeks) we talk when we run into each other (every other day), hang out at school, send a few texts every day or so back and forth, but not at her or my place.

Did I mess it up or is there something I can still try? Is there a way to escalate our dialogue back to theway it was to feel her out? Im just trying to see if I can get those indicators from her she would still be interested.

Thanks

 

[scrouds]

Its gone. Move on.

The hotter they are, the shorter the window, usually. Sounded like you had a pretty extended window, but due to life, didn't capitalize on it. Just happens that way. Time to move on to fresher prospects.

 

[Naughty Ninja]

So I find myself once again in a situation soley due to my lack of game or anything that resembles it. I would appriciate and help or advice availible as this is getting pathetic.

4 college girls rented the house beside mine. All of them are in relationships except for one, who also is by far the most attractive. They are all 22-23. I was strictly on a small talk relationship with all of them and never ever wanted more, as I figured I had no chance. Then I found this site, but assumed they had already written me off as an AFC.

Somehow the cute single one was not only into me, but aggresively pursueing. Her comments made it obvious she has been watching me for a while, from the gym to out and about. She began to approach me in bars flirty, walk home drunk with me to my place to hang out. Complement me reguarily on my looks. Reply to any text I'd send instantly, go any where I'd suggest, and any thing I said was funny.

But the month all this was going on, I was dealing with some serious family health problems back home, and was just not in that zone where I even cared. I was friendly, flirty, but never made a move. I was in those bars to get drunk, not pick up girls.

Now I'm over that and back to normal, and attracted to her. But while still super friendly etc, the way she acts around me is different, and even someone as clueless as me can pick up on either she has moved onto some other guy, or just assumed my inaction as no interest so has stopped trying.

I asked her to hang out once, and she had plans, but legitimate as I saw some event she was going to on facebook. She apologized quite a bit for being busy, but also did not counter an offer of a different day.

Since then (couple weeks) we talk when we run into each other (every other day), hang out at school, send a few texts every day or so back and forth, but not at her or my place.

Did I mess it up or is there something I can still try? Is there a way to escalate our dialogue back to theway it was to feel her out? Im just trying to see if I can get those indicators from her she would still be interested.

Thanks

Just simply give it one last shot. No d1cking around, or waiting for her to make another move or give you another sign.

Next time you see her walk up to her, take her by the hand (yes take her by the hand) tell her you have to talk to her and take her somewhere where it's just the two of you. Look her directly in the eyes while telling her look I've had a lot of stuff going on with family and wanted to make a move/go out with you (just us) but I was too distracted with family.

I'd really like to go out just us sometime.

That's it. If she says yes and you both go out fine. If she is wishy washy or comes up with an excuse later on drop it for good and move on.

You've got one shot to sh1t or get off the pot. Just do it and forget the nonsense.

 

[backbreaker]

You know normally, I would tell you to move on, but I don’t think this is done. I think you have one, and I mean only one play. But I think it would work.

You had a legit reason for not being into her at the time. the problem you have right now is that she has interpreted your disinterest as not being into her. Do this. Do exactly this. It either is gonna work or it isn’t. I bet it will though I think she likes you.

Tell her, don’t ask, to come here/see you. Sit her down and say look, I’ll just be honest with you, the last month or so I have had some serious family illnesses that I have had to attend to but don’t’ think I haven’t noticed you have had your eye on me I have’ noticed I just was not in that place at that time and I had I taken you out, my mind would not have been there and you would not have liked me as a result. I’m done with it now and I the feeling is very much mutual, (don’t ask, tell here.. do not ask. Do not ask. Do not ****ing ask. ) I have X (get tickets to something, reservations, reschedule some fun event, something) going on and you’re coming with me, and I’m not taking no for answer because I can’t stop thinking about you ( say it looking dead in her eyes, will melt right here) . lol that’s game son.

If she doesn’t respond in kind, it’s over. But I bet if you come go hard in like that, she will dig it. You are showing command of the situation, you are showing that you have a caring side, and you are showing that you are attracted to her yet not intimated by her all at the same time. how can she not like it. I mean what can she really say **** your family issues lol? no girl is that cold blooded. The only way is if she honestly didn’t like you. But she does.

Ps- no more silly texts.. communicate only to make plans from here on out. Stay busy do ****.